Dear Closure: Ya gotta slow down child. You're racing, trying to do all this stuff for yourself, for your Dad, financially. Meanwhile your emotions are running amok, you remind me, of me, at your age and stage of life. I had two small kids, (thank your lucky stars you haven't that situation yet, have you?,) I had three jobs, one fulltime, two part-time, and I was taking two courses; University. At one point I found myself sitting at a kiosk in Minneanapolis/St. Paul Airport, balling my eyes out with my two little boys in tow and surronded by a bunch of strangers staring at me. I realized 'my life is out of control". Back to basics, yup. I managed to finish up those courses, applied for Social Assistance (my pdoc was most willing to sign me out for a year as he knew I was unravelling). I think to a bit of an extent my wanting to appear so "efficient and in control", I may have inadvertently run off some of the folk who might have helped me out. Anyway, prioritize. You first. BF since he's a "keeper" second, Dad, well there are services and supports out there in the community he can tap into, does he have a diagnosis? That will get him going to the right agencies for help. There is quite a bit of help available, one just has to figure out what slot he fits into in order to get services. I care for my Dad fulltime. I have been on Disability Assistance, for my own Bi-polar illness. I finally got to see a therapist after waiting 10 months. She simply wrote out an ABC list for me to follow, and sent me in the right direction. I did the ABC thing (priorities) and guess what, it worked. Me first, then my Dad. Period. Same for you, no? Breathe.