Well I am new. My wife was diagnosed BP about 5 Years ago. I have put up with the spending, ups downs and you all know the rest.
The one thing I was always certain about was she would be holding my hand when I died at the age of 106. The thought that our love would be able to last anything.
We have been married for 28 Years. Every marriage has its ups and downs and I just thought my wife was a little wound "Tight".
We found out about the BP, did a little research and moved on with our lives together.
Recently she was infatuated with a love from High School, used her computer training I taught her and with the help of her brother, met with this guy.
This was all arrainged when I was out of town, they came to our house and the rest is pretty hurtful.
Wife decided she had a better deal staying with me, still loves this other guy with all her heart. Trying to put everything back together but am realizing every relationship has 2 people. One can't be constantly hurt and have a healthy relationship.
So I am fed up, trying to come to terms with where do I draw the line. If she wasn't sick I would be gone. I can't bear the hurt knowing I left her with an illness, If she doesn't have someone to look over her I know she could do some pretty bad things.
The constant lies are hard to deal with. Knowing she is BP, If I say one more lie and I am gone, she will certainly twist that around to her own use.
We have seen a Therapist, he is pretty good, seeing him again in another week.
Just waiting to see where this all ends up.