Well it's been an adventure. Something minor set the wife off today about
4:30 & we have been fighting ever since (it's 9:00 now). It's run the whole gamut from, how big an jerk I am to I don't treat her the way I should, I was cheating on her, or was going to cheat on her, now I treat her like a child, & sex every once in a while should be enough to be her contribution to the relationship. She had an appointment with her therapist today, she went by herself, she said she had finally told the therapist all of her symptoms (she doesn't want me to know them, which is why I didn't go) & said that the therepist said that things made a little more sense now that she knows the full story. Evidently the therapist & her pdoc(they work hand in hand) have been trying to figure things out with my wife & because of the lack of info couldn't come up with the right path. I think maybe she heard some things in therapy that she didn't like too well & it's getting projected onto me. She just came in a few mins ago & put her ring on the table & told me to pawn it. (she hasn't been wearing it since this weekend beause of the you love my mother more then me blow up). Also I am a jerk because I haven't been begging her to put it back on. I just feel like this is a game she is playing & I am not going to feed the beast so I can have it thrown back at me next time. After she told me to pawn it, she stomped back off into the bedroom, I took the ring back & put it in her jewlry box & told her where it was. She said she would pawn it tomorrow, I told her if she does she better use the money to find somewhere to live, then left the room. I just get so tired of these little episodes that start up about
nothing then end up with me being the one with the problem because I finally have had enough & start fighting back. I tried for about
an hour to get her to stop, I kept saying, honey I don't want to fight with you, so please calm down, but that always just seems to escalate things.
Here's a question. Do any of you with BP or spouces with it notice that an episode like this will usually happen in the car. She gets very tense when we go into a town with heavy traffic(we live in a small town with not very much) & maybe that helps to trigger things. I hate it beacause we usually have an hour ride back home & that's a long time to be stuck with no escape. Hard to go in the other room when you're doing 75 down the interstate.
Oh well, maybe tomorrow will be better.
(I edited a few of the spicier statements -- remember we have readers as young as 13 on this board. Thanks -- serafena)
Post Edited By Moderator (serafena) : 1/7/2009 9:31:21 PM (GMT-7)