Is there such thing as a healthy BP?

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   Posted 1/11/2009 9:58 AM (GMT -7)   
I am really trying to accept all aspects of this illness.  I feel like I need to do as much research as I can on the subject in order to best help my husband cope with it all.
So I'm wondering if anyone that has BD is "healthy".  Let me define what I mean and please feel free to elaborate outside of my term "healthy".
Healthy as in:
physically healthy
emotionally healthy (or stable as long as medicated)
in a healthy relationship
has kept a job for a long time
accepts insite from loved ones when your "mood" is starting to change (if that makes any sense?)
I guess i've seen a lot of the negative side of BD and I'm really searching for the happiness that can still come from having BD.  I'd love for anyone to share their story about how they live with BD, what makes you cope, what you feel like on a daily basis?  I hope this isn't asking for too much.  I just feel like I need to know both sides and who better to ask then someone that is BP.
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   Posted 1/11/2009 10:15 AM (GMT -7)   
I wouldn't say that I'm entirely healthy, but I think I deal as well as can be expected. I still have to fight will the illness on a daily basis. I still have mood swings daily, even though I'm stable-ish on my meds. My swings are just far milder than they would be if I were not medicated. What this means is that I snap at my husband occasionally, but I realize what I'm doing right away and I apologize (but recognize that's my personality too, not just my meds.) I get depressed and moody quickly over disappointments and unexpected changes and it takes me time to adjust. I cry easily and often. I still don't like making social plans, but I do it anyway and usually enjoy myself despite my fears. I need time alone every day or I get stressed out. I must avoid stressful situations and right now, I can't work full time. I'm going to try again in the fall and see how I do. The stress makes my swings worse and causes depression for me, so I haven't been able to for a few years now.

I have several close friends, though, who do know about my illness and love me anyway. My husband is very loving and supportive and is extremely patient. He tries to make me as comfortable as possible, checks in with me often about my mood, asks about my stress level, wants to know what I want. But he also tells me when I'm acting irrationally, would never put up with me spending a bajillion dollars, and is straight with me when I'm being mean or unkind. The truth is, I'm much more mean to myself -- I have self-esteem issues and am a self-injurer, so I hurt myself before I hurt others. He is vigilant about that.

I take my meds daily and I take 5. Three for depression, one mood stabilizer, one anti-psychotic. As a BPII, I get more depressed than manic, and my mania takes the form of hypomania, which is no fun for me. It's a jittery, creepy-crawly, angry, sleepless, irritable feeling that just won't go away. I see a therapist every 2 weeks -- have for years, and my psych once a month for a check-up. She adjusts my pills as needed.

This board helps me a lot. It helps me to talk about bipolar, to not feel stigmatized, to help others (hopefully).

I hope this is useful,
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   Posted 1/11/2009 12:54 PM (GMT -7)   
I take 6 pills a day and an injection every fortnight. I am constantly drowsy and cranky. The only time I feel good about life is when I meet new people. I get tired easily and need a lot of sleep. I am by no means normal. The coordinator at the school where I have started volunteering figured out on the third day that I have bipolar. Sometimes, I can be mean to my parents but I usually try to apologize or make it up to them. With medication, I have made only one bad decision so far which was to quit a high paying job because I found it too boring. I gave up my meds for a week, quit the job, got back on my meds and regretted my decision. I spent five months at home cooking gourmet food and got incredibly depressed. I get easily bored at work and keep looking at the watch constantly. After medication, I have lost interest in the hobbies I previously enjoyed. I also have self-esteem issues. I have never been in a relationship but after medication, I have been good about selecting friends. Before I got on medication, I made friends with people who used and abused me and thinking about that still makes me miserable. Now, I have a good set of friends.

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   Posted 1/11/2009 6:42 PM (GMT -7)   
  For the most part i am  a very positive, happy person. Most days i am just happiness and joy, and this is dealing with BP. When i get tired i get grumpy, however i try ti not get tired by sleeping more and not stressing the small stuff. THe medicine helps alot to help calm my inner noises. I work 3 jobs, excersise a lot, and still work aroudn the house. So yes, you can be a healthy BP. However it does take a lot of work, and my mindset is always looking for problems. Find them early and they cant cause as much problems as when they fester and get huge. Again, i keep this as my mindset, so it is easier for me to accept imput from my wife.
   Good luck  Bill 

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   Posted 1/12/2009 10:44 AM (GMT -7)   

I have for the most part felt pretty stable for the past year.  I am on zoloft and risperdal, and they seem to be a terrific match for me.  The only change in my meds in the past year was an increase in my anti-depressant.  And with this it was me who noticed I needed it, told my husband and made a dr appt to have it looked at.  My relationships are much better since being diagnosed in NOVEMBER 2007.  I let myself open up to people, my sister in law and I have become confidants and talk at least twice a week.  And I do know in my heart that if i felt i was sliffing up in any way, if I felt I couldnt reach out to my husband for some reason, I could with her.  My mother is very supportive also.

Although I do attribute my success with dealing with BP to my medication and therapy, I also think that the knowledge of losing my family keeps me on the straight and narrow.  I know for a fact my husband would not take any more from me as far as the spending or the lying, and losing him or my 3 daughters would kill me.  The medication and therapy has gotten me to a healthier place to where I make better judgement.  I am about to start my 4th consecutive semester of school and have gotten A's and B's so far and will be applying to the RN program this spring.

It is all not sunshine though.  I do tend to get defensive quickly when in a disagreement with my husband.  I tend to always think people are attacking me, or it is my fault...and that is something i am working on.  And right now we made an agreement with eachother to start becoming physically healthier by jogging 3 times a week and doing situps and pushups together nightly....we will see how that goes (the one bad thing about the meds for me is the is hard to lose!)

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   Posted 1/12/2009 2:53 PM (GMT -7)   
It can be done, living a healthy lifestyle but it takes alot of work and total acceptance of your chronic illness.  I have been at my job for 5 years, I love it because it is very stress free for me most of the time and I make pretty decent money.  I knew I had problems for years but I just thought I was hyperactive.  As the years went by and I got older and started experiencing the depressive side of BP I knew something was wrong, went to a PDoc after I got into some legal trouble over writing bad checks.  I still would not accept that I was BP.  Went and had a physical top to bottom and guess what, healthy as a horse, could not find anything.  That is when I realized that I really was BP.  Up until then I would go on and off meds and that made me get much worse.  Just recently I did started taking Risperdal and once we got the dosage correct, I have felt better than I have in a long time.  I also take Xanax to keep the mania down and get some sleep.  My husband also realized I was in trouble with too much stress and has been very helpful in doing more of the household things to take stress off of me.  It has not been easy but we have come a long way and really it has made our once fragile relationship much better.  i walk 1 mile a day, take vitamins and eat well (to help keep the weight gain to a minimum from the meds) and meditate when I can find a few free moments.  I think acceptance and the right meds can get you to a better place than you were without them.  It is not easy, but nothing worth having ever is..................
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   Posted 1/12/2009 6:20 PM (GMT -7)   

BD Spouse, I've had bipolar disorder for 10 years and am relatively healthy.  I was diagnosed when I was 30 and have held a full-time accounting job for all of my adult years.  I'm married and have 3 sons and am in a very loving relationship.  Because of my disorder, my spouse is very aware of my health and "triggers".

I am in a stable period with my bipolar disorder right now and enjoy my family and work.  My unstable mixed (mania and depression)periods are long and drawn out generally, but I'm still able to work.  During those times, it takes alot of effort to "appear" to be alright.  It's very hard for me to concentrate at all during my mixed episodes and I get easily frustrated.  However, I see a therapist 2-3 times a month and he's been wonderful in helping me to see things more positively, learn relaxation exercises, etc. 

I believe that bipolar disorder is a tough illness to have, but we can still be happy and live the best life that we can.

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