I wouldn't say that I'm entirely healthy, but I think I deal as well as can be expected. I still have to fight will the illness on a daily basis. I still have mood swings daily, even though I'm stable-ish on my meds. My swings are just far milder than they would be if I were not medicated. What this means is that I snap at my husband occasionally, but I realize what I'm doing right away and I apologize (but recognize that's my personality too, not just my meds.) I get depressed and moody quickly over disappointments and unexpected changes and it takes me time to adjust. I cry easily and often. I still don't like making social plans, but I do it anyway and usually enjoy myself despite my fears. I need time alone every day or I get stressed out. I must avoid stressful situations and right now, I can't work full time. I'm going to try again in the fall and see how I do. The stress makes my swings worse and causes depression for me, so I haven't been able to for a few years now.
I have several close friends, though, who do know about my illness and love me anyway. My husband is very loving and supportive and is extremely patient. He tries to make me as comfortable as possible, checks in with me often about my mood, asks about my stress level, wants to know what I want. But he also tells me when I'm acting irrationally, would never put up with me spending a bajillion dollars, and is straight with me when I'm being mean or unkind. The truth is, I'm much more mean to myself -- I have self-esteem issues and am a self-injurer, so I hurt myself before I hurt others. He is vigilant about that.
I take my meds daily and I take 5. Three for depression, one mood stabilizer, one anti-psychotic. As a BPII, I get more depressed than manic, and my mania takes the form of hypomania, which is no fun for me. It's a jittery, creepy-crawly, angry, sleepless, irritable feeling that just won't go away. I see a therapist every 2 weeks -- have for years, and my psych once a month for a check-up. She adjusts my pills as needed.
This board helps me a lot. It helps me to talk about bipolar, to not feel stigmatized, to help others (hopefully).
I hope this is useful,
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