I kind of agree with Serafena. Have you guys sought marriage counselling as well? My husband and I are in regular weekly marriage counselling. We've attended many couples workshops and read a lot of relationship books on making marriage work despite the ups and downs of the last year. Our focus together (even though sometimes we both say otherwise when we are angry/upset) is to make our relationship work...and NOT for the kids. We do it for us because if him and I are "healthy" whether we are married or not, that is what is best for our kids.
I know it seems weird me posting about
this after my last post about
his thoughts of wiping out his family but honestly, we "normally" have some really good times. Up until a few weeks ago we were a normal struggling married couple. We struggle with the kids, we struggle with our jobs we struggle keeping that "spark" we struggle to get out together ......... you know, normal stuff. I know i'll get my husband back again some day (even with the medication) because he deep down really is a good guy. I think his BD spiraling out of control is what has made the last couple months the way it is...
but back to you (sorry)
I think your husband was clearly indicating that he didn't want you to go with him for whatever reason and part of me knows how you are feeling in just wanting to be WITH him even though you know he doesn't want you there and the other part of me cringes and thinks that he is obviously needing some space so maybe you should respect that? Sounds harsh I know and I'm with you, and would have done the same thing (might as well be honest!) just to hang out with him.
((HUGS)) This is tough! I understand!
From the moment
From the moment i saw you, I wanted to meet you
From the moment i met you, I wanted to know you
From the moment i knew you, I was in love with you
From the moment i loved you, I wanted to share my life with you
and from that moment to this moment and for the moments to come I will love you with all my heart.