I'm with BD on this. It is very sad what you are going thru right now, but as I keep saying, at least he is somewhere getting treatment & being taken care of. His lashing out & you and your family is part of this, in a day or two he will probably be calling you again. Like BD told you, take this time for YOU. You have been dealing with this for a long time, so now some things that you wanted to do, but couldn't before. Not saying take a European vacation or anything, just some simple stuff that you wanted. When my wife went in the hospital the first time, I repainted the bathroom, something she wanted done & we had the stuff to do it, I just never had the time. I had to take vacation days from work beause I was on 3rds & didn't have anyone to watch our son overnight, so after I took him to shool, I had the whole day to myself until time to pick him up. I gotta be honest it was really refreshing & a break I really needed from the grind of my life (pay attention 4support! lol). Find yourself a project to occupy yourself & clear your head out some. I know you have a lot of things kind of in limbo right now, but that's o.k.. Don't let yourself get down. You are doing all you can, the rest is up to him & the docs. Stay strong & you will get thru this.
"The struggles make you stronger, and the changes make you wise, and happiness has it's own way of taking it's sweet time.
Gary Allan- From "Life Ain't Always Beutiful"