Hi there- I am glad you posted, this topic is important and one that many of us here can relate to. I think that reaching out to your brother coukd be a positive thing, reconciliation can take time, but can also be good.
As far as others in your life, please hear the words I am going to say and take them in the way they are suggested, with compassion and sincerity. I have learned that in trying to make amends, ask for forgiveness or explain away negative behaviors, sometimes we can make a bad situation worse. The people we offended do not want us back in their lives, and for us to reach out to them makes the "reconciliation" more about us and our needs than theirs. They often feel manipulated all over again. My feeling is that once we have offended someone badly enough that they have removed themselves from our lives, we should respect their attempt to bring order back to their lives and do not impose again.
I hope you find the peace you seek.
"A butterfly is most vulnerable immediately after its metamorphosis."
Dx FM- 2003
Rx Meds- Ultram, Flexeril, Toprol, Cymbalta, Buspar
OTC meds- Benadryl, Claritin, Melatonin, Valerian, B Complex, Multi Vitamin