Thanks to all of you for your support and information. Serafena thanks for your advice. I have been doing the right thing. I haven't used the "b" word. She uses it, but not me. I always say "mood swings".
The last time she had a mood swing, I gently told her that she was having a mood switn. She told me that she was tired of hearing the "...ing mood swings" . She said they were not mood swings, and if they are mood swings, then I should have her committed. She is in denial. She did admit she was depressed. She said it is our kids that is making her depressed.
We do have a son the is flunking classes in high school, and a 8 year old that doesn't mind. The 8 year old gets angry and slam doors and kick walls when things don't go his way. He takes after his mom. They both react the same way. Both of our sons are adopted.
She blames me for not fixing the problem, she thinks that I should beat them or something. She thinks that I don't care, because I have not been able to get my son to make good grades in school, and I don't get our 8 year old to mind.
I told her that she should get help and maybe there is some medicine to help her.
She replied hat she would rather kill herself than to take drugs for her problem.
Sometimes, I am afraid to push her to much, that she may kill herself. Deep down. I think I would have to threatening to divorce here to get her to get help.
After her affair, I gave her the option of counseling or a divorce. She agreed to the counseling, reluctantly. She did not mind it, once she realized that she could control the counselor. We only talked about how to fix the problems with our kids. I know if we fix the problem with the kids, she always finds something else to be angry about.
Anyway, she does now admit that she has a problem, but is not willing to take medicine for it. She took Prozack at one time. She did not like it, because she gained weight and lost her sex drive. I bet there is lots of choices for medication that is available that don't have those side effects.
If you have any advice on how I may persuade here to seek help let me know. She doesn't seem to want to listen to me. She believes that she will be fine, once the entire world gets their act together.