massive bd w\mood disorders And Post tramatick stress Syndrome(sorry bout the spelling)

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   Posted 2/26/2009 2:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hey all, How's eveybody doing? let me tell you rocketman you were right about things yet to come...I have been blow away by the things that my soon to be ex-wife  has been telling me. her actions are astounding. I Think i told you already that i have been married for 11 years and I really want to be in for the long haul right. She came up to me two days ago and said she had something to tell me but she duidn't want to hurt me. How am i suposed to take that? Anyway. She told me that she wanted to leave me because she just wanted the feal of haveing somebody new. AS IN A NEW LOVER!!!!THIS IS WHAT SHE TOLD ME TO MY FACE....What to do.....I had a long talk with her and told her If she ever did that we were done..We talked a lomg time about why she felt that way.. ,And she told me that she didn't know why?But anyway I told her she is a sexadict. AM I right? She is done with me. She told me she wanted Diorce. I hated to hear that but,after a long talk with her I kinda understood where she was coming from...kinda...m lost.. and don't know what to do. Is there any one that can help me stay on the right track...

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   Posted 2/26/2009 7:31 AM (GMT -7)   

Hey Hotmail;

Don't throw in the towel just yet. If she hasn't acted on it, then she may just be spouting off. I have heard the EXACT same things so many times before from my wife I couldn't even count them. She has never acted on them or except for one time a year ago she had an online fling with someone from her past, but it never got past the computer. I have found that this is usually a defence thing with her, if her feelings are hurt over something she starts verbally flailing at others. Tries to find a button to push, in her mind if she can't make herself feel better, she will make someone else feel bad, then everything will be ok. You did the right thing by telling her what the consequences would be if she followed thru with these feelings. BP or not they are still accountable for their actions. Keep an eye on her & her meds, it sounds like they maybe need adjusted a little more. Try to stay calm thru this & don't let her goad you into a fight that you cannot win.

"The struggles make you stronger, and the changes make you wise, and happiness has it's own way of taking it's sweet time.
Gary Allan- From "Life Ain't Always Beutiful"

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   Posted 2/26/2009 8:54 AM (GMT -7)   

This is a common thing with mania, I'm sorry to say. If you stick with her and she doesn't get medicated, it won't be the last time you hear it, either. She's not a sex addict, she's bipolar. Again, I can only stress how important it is she get treatment and you get some therapy. If you want to stay in this marriage, you're going to need professional support. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's the ugliest side of bipolar. We don't all get this way.

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   Posted 2/26/2009 10:03 AM (GMT -7)   
Dear hotmail,

Is your wife taking medication? Is she seeing a psychiatrist? It sounds like your wife is going through a hypomanic phase. During hypomania or mania, it is common to develop love interests or believe you are in love because of increased sexual desire (a byproduct of mania). The love or sexual interest fades as soon as the medication begins to take effect.

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