Quote: My ex husband is also Bi Polar but I believe his has to do with years of drug abuse and alcholism.
Your ex husband is not BiPolar because he abused drugs and alcholism he abused drugs and was an alcoholic due to the fact that he suffered from BiPolar Disorder and this was his way of dealing with it.
Just as your son is abusing drugs!
Quote: Im wondering if any adults with this disease could give me some advice to make my sons life a bit better for him and I.
Unless your son has a developmental problem ie: downs, autism, ect then he should be viewed as an adult. You are a legal adult at 18yrs of age. You are required to register with the selective service if you are a male and you are expected to start edging toward your future of adulthood. This can be harder for someone that suffers from BPD.
If he is not in couseling for drug abuse and for his BPD then he needs to be. Sounds like he would benefit from a group support group. It would also benefit him to speak with a college guidance couselor. Figure out some of his interest and head him in the right direction.
I know a 18 yr old boy with BPD and if you hand him a wrench he can fix everything on a car and he is most content when he is doing it. It is his creative side kicking in. His mind is finding some calmness and he is at peace. He finally feels in control.
I feel this way when I'm drawing or writing.
If your treating him like a child you need to treat him like an adult that is your child. He will destroy your life if you let him. Trust me I do things to my family constantly.
I believe that people with BPD will also manipulate those that they love to get what they feel they need. They do this by using the disorder. Although we can say we can not help most things we do. The truth is we can. Counseling, medication, and developing a support team. I now tell people when I can't or don't want to do something so that they will make me.
Example: I don't want to go to therapy today. No, you really need to go and you know you do. Your right, I do need to go.
Example: I don't want to take my medication I'm fine now. There was nothing wrong with me that medication isn't working see I'm ok. Sometimes I need someone to say your fine because your taking the medication do you remember when you did such and such. I may not admit to it and I may get a bit disgruntled but I will know in my heart that I need to take the medication and do the right thing.
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