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Date Joined May 2009
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   Posted 5/31/2009 8:48 AM (GMT -7)   
I just found this forum this morning.  My husband of just over 5 years was diagnosed with BP just a few months ago.  He is an alcoholic, in recovery for four years, who nearly died of complication from cirrhosis about seven years ago.  He's also diabetic and suffers from a complication of the diabetes that has caused his feet to degenerate. 
When he is willing and/or able to talk about his BP issues, he says he thinks he may have been BP even before he started drinking, which was when he was 13.  His liver specialist referred him to a psychiatrist, and after about 6 months, he agreed to go, and received his diagnosis.  At first, his meds were working amazingly well - he was in a manic phase when he started treatment, and that just dissipated.  He saw a nurse practitioner once a week for about six weeks, then was put on a schedule of every two weeks. But then his NP had a family emergency, and his appointments were canceled.  We were told we would be called with further insttructions, but it's been three weeks now, and nothing.  Meanwhile, he's gone into a down phase - sleeps all the time, is irritable and withdrawn, and insists nothing is wrong.  He won't call his psychiatrist's office to follow up, and he doesn't want me to, either.  He is sleeping now, as he has been doing about 16-18 hours a day, and he believes this is perfectly normal.  Today my son is graduating from high school, and I should be happy, but my husband has been rude to my son and almost shouted at him at church.  (They have never gotten along, and my son is frequently a focus when my husband is irritable.)  He is acting like a zombie, and I just wish there was something I could do. 
I'm glad I found this forum, and I'm looking forward to reading and posting.

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Date Joined May 2007
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   Posted 5/31/2009 9:26 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi tired in michigan,

Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar forum. Bipolar and substance abuse do often go hand in hand, so it's unfortunate, but not uncommon that your husband was an alcoholic. But it's great that he's in recovery. I lost my father to alcoholism this year. I know how terrible a disease it is.

It's not unusual that meds will work for a while and then stop working. Part of bp management requires medicine adjustments. He should call the psych office to follow up. Even if the NP had a family emergency and isn't ready to re-connect with him yet, he still needs management, so he needs an appt with the psych. It sounds like he may be swinging a little low. Keep working on him to call the psych.

I'm sorry your son has to take the brunt of it. That's not fair, especially on such a special day. Try to keep your spirits up and make up for your husband's rude behavior. It's hard to be the "well" parent, I'm sure.

Good luck, and feel free to come here for advice or just to vent.

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