Bipolar wife stopped meds

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   Posted 6/2/2009 5:01 PM (GMT -7)   
My wife of 10yrs has stopped her medication, partially because she went to a naturalpath (sp??) and was told that after "cleansing" she would only need to take the natural blah blah stuff and partially because she didn't like the way it made her feel.  I think it really changed her and put her on an even keel, so to speak.  She has been BP since I have known her but I only recently found out "what" is wrong.  Now, she wants a divorce too, which is typical of her when she is in a deep down cycle, she actually carried out part of the plan once and moved out for 5 months.  I have always told her that if that (leaving/divorce) makes her happy then feel free, because I love her and want her to be happy.  She is really hard to live with when she is in the down cycle, I am the cause for all the worlds problems, wears a guy down after a while...
I am learning as much as I can about Bipolar disorder and have recently learned (today) that I have NOT been doing the right things, and feel horrible about it.  I feel like I may have actually made it worse.  
The thing that gets me is someone who is not qualified to perscribe meds took her off of a perscribed medication.......... 

Post Edited (tryingtodeal) : 6/2/2009 7:13:33 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 6/2/2009 6:46 PM (GMT -7)   

Welcome to HealingWell and to the bipolar board. I hope we can offer you some companionship and advice.

Impulsive decisions are part of bipolar, unfortunately, and it sounds like your wife just made one. It's risky to go off your medication like that. You should never go off your meds without the supervision of your doctor. But your wife is a big girl and she took the risk she chose to make. All of us can relate to not wanting to be on the meds anymore. Unfortunately, for most BP's, that's just not an option.

You've got to support her no matter what, but make it clear you don't agree with what she did. Tell her you'll always be there for her. It's quite likely without medication she'll quickly spiral into another cycle. She'll need someone to be there to help her. If you can hack it, it can be you.

On the other hand, if you want out, this might be a good time for it. Not everyone likes being married to bipolars. Are you in it for the long haul?

Good luck to you!

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   Posted 6/2/2009 8:24 PM (GMT -7)   
I've been hacking it for over 10yrs now, it has not been fun, I just did not know what it was. If I tell her to get back on the meds she will NOT be nice about it, especially right now. As I said above, she is in a really bad (for her) down cycle right now. I want to support her and am here for her, but I really need some better advice as to the HOW. Asking her if she is "mad" when she is having a bad time with it is like throwing gasoline on the fire.
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