Does this make sence? I need help.

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slz727
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   Posted 6/7/2009 6:06 PM (GMT -7)   
I am just wondering if anyone has had a problem keeping a job? I have and I am on medical leave right now from the longest job that I have had to date 18 months. I was going to quit but went to my pdr and told him what was going on and he has so far given me 2 months off. My real question is has anyone had a problem that when you first start a job you are like in a manic state but as you stay the novelty is gone and then it is rutine and the high is gone so you don't want to go? I have had 6 jobs in the last 4 years and have quit every one with no notice and no other job lined up to take its place. I feel good not working for a few months then I find another job, get the high again and then in a few months I am done. It starts out fine but in a few months I can not stand to think about the job and will start calling in sick and then I just won't show up. I need to know if I am the only one who is going through this and if anyone has suggestions as to how to deal. Your response would be a great help to me. Thank You,
SLZ

serafena
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   Posted 6/7/2009 6:18 PM (GMT -7)   
This is really, really common with bipolar, SLZ. I am struggling with this right now too, but I'm pushing through because I really want to keep my job. But you're absolutely not alone. I call my husband for support if I'm at work and I'm just getting too miserable. You have a couple of months off, that should help you catch your breath so to speak. A lot of people have such trouble working that they apply for SSI Disability. I hope that helps,

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slz727
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   Posted 6/7/2009 6:26 PM (GMT -7)   
serafena,
Thank you for your response. This does make me feel better that this is not just me but the disorder (not that I want a Crutch). I think that my anxity also plays a roll in this as well. I call my husband to for support he tries to help me but he has been at his job for over 20 years and he realy dosen't understand how I can get so fed up so quickly. As you know with bipolar people we do most of the time have anger issues. I have a not angry switch and an angry switch nothing in between and this gets me into trouble to. That some times the reason I quit. Thank you so much for making me not feel so alone. I do not feel that SSI is a posability for me because I am only 30 and yes my husband is much older than me.
SLZ

mike79
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   Posted 6/7/2009 8:48 PM (GMT -7)   
slz727 said...
I am just wondering if anyone has had a problem keeping a job? I have and I am on medical leave right now from the longest job that I have had to date 18 months. I was going to quit but went to my pdr and told him what was going on and he has so far given me 2 months off. My real question is has anyone had a problem that when you first start a job you are like in a manic state but as you stay the novelty is gone and then it is rutine and the high is gone so you don't want to go? I have had 6 jobs in the last 4 years and have quit every one with no notice and no other job lined up to take its place. I feel good not working for a few months then I find another job, get the high again and then in a few months I am done. It starts out fine but in a few months I can not stand to think about the job and will start calling in sick and then I just won't show up. I need to know if I am the only one who is going through this and if anyone has suggestions as to how to deal. Your response would be a great help to me. Thank You,
SLZ


I know exactly what you mean. I've had several jobs and opportunities,and all of them I past on,or called in sick several times,or just quit no notice. I had a 2 1/2 year streak once,and one day I didnt feel like working,so i called in,and the manager said i had alot of callins,so i just told him i quit(which wasn't the first or last). I could of got my job back cause my aunt worked there,but shame and anxiety won. I even went back to school got a degree and still have fear of pursuing it. The past year I did volunteer work and missed only one day, I dont know if it's because it wasn't a ''real'' job. But now I've moved back home,and I cant find anything,and for once I really am trying....I just hope when I do get a job I can be strong enough mentally to keep it..I dont know if I was much help,but I want you to know your not alone..good luck

serafena
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   Posted 6/8/2009 5:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Mike79,

Welcome to the bipolar board. Why not take a moment to start a new thread and tell us a little bit about yourself so we can get to know you? Hope you're having a good day.

serafena
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slz727
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   Posted 6/8/2009 8:50 PM (GMT -7)   
Mike,
Thank you for your response. I just talked with my counsler today and she stated that I need a job that I can set my own rules and schedule. Sounds easy but what job can you get except owning your own bussiness that would fit this discription? Also I have thought about volunteer work becuse like you said it is not a real job and if you don't show up what difference does it make there not going to fire a volunteer. Right? This is a though decision for me to look at my self as a week person because I fell like I can not work. Thanks Again for your support!

SLZ

mommy.michele
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   Posted 6/8/2009 9:20 PM (GMT -7)   
SLZ...this is very common. And not just with jobs, but with just not finishing big tasks. It took me 19 years to finally get my A.S. in Biology, I am 4 years behind on my family scrapbooks, I still have not finished putting my china in the china hutch since we put in new floors.

I could go on and on.
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
you have to run people over." ~ Fred Pausch


slz727
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   Posted 6/9/2009 6:36 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you mommy,
come to think about it I don't realy ever finish what I start either such as exercise! I also would like to know if anyone thinks about the future and feels like can I do this the rest of my life? meaning work exercise and such.
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