Thank you for your words of wisdom and advice. Your experience speaks volumes to me and I really appreciate your time. Currently I know that she has not been in contact with her psychiatrist because she has been out of the country for a month. Before she left, when I was with her, she was taking her medication as it has been prescribed to her and she always has stuck to that. However, I do not know how strict her routine has been taking the medication while she has been overseas (not really a very appropriate topic of conversation while we are so far away from each other in my opinion). Last summer she was seeing a therapist once a week close to my hometown and she would come visit for a day or two almost every week around the same time she was going to see him. The same situation applies, I am almost positive she has not be speaking with him since she has been away. I have done a ton of research about bipolar disorder and has been something I have done when we first started seeing each other.
I have been taking things slow, and forcing myself to avoid contacting her even though it has been very difficult. You are correct, she seemed very stressed when I told her about my issue and the only reason I let her know was so that she knew what was going on right when it happened so that it was not a situation where I was hiding something from her.
I think your recommendation that I send a letter is what I should do...I think once she returns and is settled back in she will have some time to consider the situation. She will be back in the US this upcoming Sunday night. However, I am having a difficult time deciding how long I should wait before I send one, and also I am concerned that if I do it too soon it will simply push her further away. A few days? A week? A few weeks? Your opinion and the opinion of others is greatly appreciated. I realize that my situation is unique because no one can really understand our relationship or the inner workings because every relationship is different and people respond differently. If I have to move on, I understand..but I feel like this is a situation that caused her stress and instead of discussing it with me she just decided to end things and chose not to deal with it with me.
Thank you for your encouraging words and we will see how it works out soon. I just want to make sure that any actions of mine does not make the situation escalade, I want to give her all the space she wants while at the same time letting her know somehow that I am here for her and I am always willing to offer my love and understanding.
good luck to you and your marriage as well. I always have an open heart and mind to the experience of others.