anyone find it difficult to have a relationship. i am in a long term relationship..14 years, we are married and have 3 kids. we went through a v.bad patch after my 2nd child. anyhow, i am back to being fed up again. i have started taking meds and hope they will be of some help. i am going to reg councelling..for me. my husband doesnt have a problem and makes a point of telling me am the one wih the problem. anyhow, i feel that we are off balance when am distant hes suffociating, when hes close am distant. he claims i've zoned out the last couple of days. we had a major argument..over nothing really. and i really reaslised how hurt he is and how he is trying but never seems to get it right. i dont know if its my bi polar, our relationship, him, me..what? i am completely off intimacy with him and just not interested..and find it is beginning to get at me the fact that i am just not into it. and to be quite honest havent been for ages..years maybe. anyhow, any suggestions on how to ride through these bad waves. I cant tlk to him cos i feel we are just going over old ground. and that he is completly exzasperated at this stage by me, my suggestions etc. i can see hes trying but he never seems to get it right. I told him i dont want things..material things..waht i would like is a date with my husband but he just doesnt seem to get it. my mum could b.sit. i am fed up arranging our "nites" out. and would like him to do it for a change. as i said i have mentioned this more than once. so maybe i should just sit it out..#tanks for listening..