married to bp wife

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Date Joined May 2009
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   Posted 8/4/2009 3:36 PM (GMT -7)   
This may sound petty but I have been married to my bp wife for 13 years and the ups and downs are starting to get me down.  about a year ago she started with a new doctor that has been trying to regulate her better then her family doc was.  So far don't see much change but the say it can take a while.  She recently started a new med along with the lamitical for depression she seeems happier but her libido has droppen of dramacticly not that it was ever that great but I delt with it the best I could because I love her.  Just don't know how to approach her anymore its like my feelings and emotions don't count.  If I say something she feels like I am pressuring her but I feel like I spent most of are marriage biting my tounge. Just want to feel like someone desires me and I not just the handiman and maid.

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Date Joined Aug 2009
Total Posts : 5
   Posted 8/4/2009 3:47 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey my friend, I just posted right before you.


This isn't necessarily a bp problem, its a marriage problem. You aren't the first man to complain about not enough sex. My first suggestion is be proactive

1 - get in the gym
2 - change your clothes, especially get some nice shoes and a cologne
3 - learn to dance well
4 - start with romantic gestures

It may help

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Date Joined Dec 2007
Total Posts : 369
   Posted 8/4/2009 4:55 PM (GMT -7)   
sad65. it is a common problem when being on meds for bp to have a lowered libido. You and your wife would probably benefit from couples counseling so you can be in a neutral place to be able to bring up your concerns. As long as you both understand that the lower libido comes with the territory for many with bipolar. You as a spouse need to be able to let your frustrations out too.

It is true for many in the bipolar boat to have diminished libidos. And trust much as you are frustrated, it is frustrating for us too.
"Just because you're in the driver's seat, doesn't mean
you have to run people over." ~ Fred Pausch

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