thinking about having another baby

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   Posted 8/14/2009 11:50 PM (GMT -7)   
With this post, more than anything, I think I just need to "talk." Don't feel obliged to reply, but I'll take any perspective, anecdote, or advice I can!

I actually got pregnant with my daughter the day after I was released from my psychiatric hospital stay. Talk about a homecoming! My daughter will be two this fall, and I'll be 31, and I'm starting to really think about having another. My husband and I have talked a little bit, but nothing definite yet.

During my pregnancy, I was on Celexa and Risperidal, and they were pretty average doses. When I discovered I was pregnant, I cut my pills in half, but didn't go off, because it was too risky for me to be without meds. Now, I'm on Celexa and Lamictal, with Xanax only when I feel an anxiety attack coming on. And I'm on higher doses - 40mg Celexa and 150mg Lamictal. I know my doc will be nervous if I want to lower my doses, and I am, too. But if we have another baby, that's what I'll do. I need as little risk as possible!

Interestingly, I'm already considered a high-risk preggo because of my heart defect. Yet, my first pregnancy wasn't too bad (except for my mild existential crisis :-) ) and my daughter is healthy and wonderful and perfect. I've just started thinking so much about trying again - and while my husband manages the financial end of things, I worry about being a good womb that won't stunt my child's brain with all of my prescriptions!

I can deal with being BP almost any other time. But it's these moments that I feel like I'll never be normal. Most women worry about their babies. Yet how many freak out that the thing that's keeping Mommy in one piece might be breaking Baby apart?! That's me. I'm that nutty. But I'm scared to wait too much longer for a second baby - partly because of my BP and meds, partly because of my heart, and partly because of my Ehlers-Danlos (aka freaky dislocating joints).

I just want to be normal, feel normal, instead of this guise of normalcy that masks something dark and brooding. Yet, I'll never be a "normate," and it also seems unfair to burden a little child with that when she never asked to be born in the first place.

"Sanity is a cozy lie." ~ Susan Sontag

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   Posted 8/15/2009 1:39 PM (GMT -7)   
Just giving you the virtual ear you're asking for and telling you I'm there, we're thinking through the same problems, and I know how it feels.

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   Posted 9/9/2009 10:13 PM (GMT -7)   
I have Ehlers danlos as well. there is no type my family fits into, my 3 siblings plus me & our father and our siblings children have it as well.  Also Bipolar, me& my son have. He's in kindergarden now and is in special education, where he recieves ot and speech. pt is being evaluated stronger lower body and weaker upper body. he has asmatha on top of everything.  it's been a rough few yrs. hope to talk to you soon. it would be nice to talk to someone with ehlers danlos as well.

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   Posted 9/10/2009 8:00 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Reena,

Welcome to Healing Well and to the bipolar board. I'm sorry to hear about the pervasiveness of bipolar and Ehlers-Danlos in your family. That must be very hard. We're here for support for your bipolar condition, at least. There are others here who have bipolar children, too.

Good luck,
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   Posted 9/11/2009 12:58 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey. I will write more to you later. But I wanted to ask if you have talked to your docs about another baby? Like your psych, ob/gyn, heart doc?, any other docs you may be seeing also???? I would start there if I were you and see what they say or suggest to you.

Write more later. I have much to share. I have a 2 year old and an 11 month old and both are healthy and happy as can be and I am BP II and diabetic. I was scared about the medicine thing too but my kids are great. My 11 mnth old has a heart condition but we recently found out that it healed itself and he just came off his medication. It wasn't anything the meds did, or I did that caused it though.

Ok, gotta go! Write more later.
"I'm not crazy; I'm just a little unwell."  Matchbox Twenty

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