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Date Joined Sep 2009
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   Posted 9/26/2009 6:13 AM (GMT -7)   
Thank you for welcoming me to the board as the spouse of a BP man.
After 9 years, and MUCH counselling (me, he refuses to go), I am looking at leaving (again).  It's not the first time, and the trouble usually revolves around my children (28 and 25 year old males), or my friends, although no one comes over anymore.
Things have been going better for the last year or so and I had relaxed more.  I'm always on edge though when the kids are visiting.  I don't want to bash spouse, although I'm very angry, frightened and confused.  Last weekend, spouse exploded out of the blue on my eldest, and was threatening and verbally abusive.
I'm tired of trying to figure this out.  I'm just tired.  I'm 53 and have multiple sclerosis, which has worsened in recent years.  He has stated twice recently, that he is having suicidal thoughts again.  He owns LOTS of guns and a couple of crossbows, although the guns are stored correctly I believe.
I have tried to talk with him, and suggested he call his pdoc about his medication, but no luck.
Any thoughts on any other paths besides leaving?  If I can't talk to him successfully, and I have a concern about his mental state, the firearms, my children, myself, should I call his doc? a crisis centre?
Things are not in crisis right now.  He has been calming down for a few days.
Sorry for the long post. rolleyes   I am concerned.
Sandy wink


Post Edited (elsie06) : 9/26/2009 10:37:27 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/28/2009 9:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Sandy,

How's your DH doing now? You need to be honest with your husband -- let him know his behavior is getting out of control and you're thinking of leaving. Make it clear that his seeing a doc is crucial to your staying. If he's getting suicidal, it's good to lock up the hunting weapons. Is it possible for you to get them out of his control? You know that if he does get suicidal and/or violent and you're frightened that he's a danger to himself, you can call the police.

Good luck,
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Bipolar II

"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER

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   Posted 9/28/2009 3:53 PM (GMT -7)   
I agree-have the guns locked up. I have percocet in the house and when I was feeling suicidal, I asked DH to hide them. It was hard to do, but I knew I wasn't in my 'right mind' at the time and didn't want to make a mistake I couldn't take back.
Stephanie, 29, married for 10 wonderful years and mommy to two awesome toddlers
dx with Crohn's 4/2003, in remission from 11/2003 to 7/2009
omeprazole 40mg, zoloft 100mg, apriso 1500mg, dicyclomine 3/day
dx with bipolar II 8/2009, re-diagnosed with bipolar I 9/09
Apparently allergic to lamictal...waiting on next rx

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