I've been with my wife for 7 years, married for 2, and she says now that she's not happy and that we're not compatable and that she needs space and wants me to move out for a month so she can take care of herself and get better (I'm not sure what that means exactly). She went to her doctor and he said that she should go see a psychiatrist. I don't know if she has an appointment or not, but I hope she goes. When someone who's bipolar says they need space, is that what they really want? I moved out with some clothes, etc. to give her space because I thought that would help but I'm second guessing myself and thinking I should have stayed because she needs to get help. Her mom is in town staying with her so she's not alone, but I don't think I'm really helping. I feel like I'm sort of withdrawing or appeasing her and giving her control, which is what she really wants. I don't want things to fall apart and I want to be there for her to help her anyway I can. I'm paying all the bills too so she said she can't really kick me out, so I agreed to move out if it would help make things better. One thing happened before I left. She was crying in bed and I asked her what was wrong and she said she was sad. I told her it doesn't have to be like this. She said that she couldn't have what she wanted and that what she wanted and what she needed were two different things. I asked her what she wanted and she could never tell me. It's like she's come to the conclusion that we aren't right for each other and that I need to go in order for her to move on. She thinks we fight because we aren't compatable and doesn't know that she's depressed because she's bipolar. She's never admitted that she's bipolar and hates it when I mention it. We were arguing a while back and I told her if she kept it up I was going to leave, so she dared me to leave and I left. I slept at my buddy's place that night, which according to her is a deal breaker since I didn't come home. I'm kicking myself for forgetting that that was a deal breaker for her. I let my anger get the best of me. So that was the start of it all, about 3 weeks ago. So, do I stay moved out and give her space or do I go back and tell her I'm not going anywhere and that I'm here to help her and be by her side?
Thank you for your advice!