bipolar wants divorce after 9 years

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wits end
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Date Joined Dec 2009
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   Posted 12/2/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -7)   
I am new and so glad I may get some help please. Had a wonderful 9 years with my bipolar husband apart from a few split ups, his spending and verbal abuse!
We moved to Spain this year. He went first for three months to sort out work and me and the children went in July. We came back to the UK in Oct and collected all our stuff and moved to a very small place back in Spain. Husband started going funny, very distant and wouldnt talk about Christmas, said he was never going back to our home in England. Said he had thoughts in his head, was getting up at 5am washing the car, was shaking and said he was very tired. I had then to return to the UK to bring one of our sons back and he cried when we left. He phoned me on the first day travelling then nothing. Next day whilst driving he phoned to say he wanted a separation and now its divorce. He will not talk to me and has blocked my emails. He has a female friend he met before we went over and we found him there on his birthday when he had voices in his head, but he was furious when I asked if he was having an affair. He said when he finished me he was a new man, not taking crap anymore and going to enjoy his life and go out with his female friend every night. Our new life has finished before it began - I had to bring the children back to England and here we are now. I cant eat or sleep. I dont know if this is him talking or the bipolar, or how long this will last. I cant even talk to him. He used to phone for 2 hours every night when he was in Spain on his own and now nothing. He also had an episode 2 months ago when we came home to fiond hoim drunk (he never drinks) and had cut all his arms with a knife. Can anyone out there please help

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   Posted 12/2/2009 11:52 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi wits end:

I'm so sorry to hear about the terrible position you're in now. I think you need more intervention than this site can offer. You see, we are a board which focuses on supporting those suffering from bipolar disorder. While it does sound like your husband may be having an episode, only a trip to the doctor can determine that. Aside from supporting him when his desire to get well returns, there's not much you can do.

Allow me to suggest therapy for you in the meantime, and if you look in the "Bipolar Disorder Resources" thread, you will find a post listing useful sites for friends and family members of people with bipolar. One of those discussion boards may be closer to what you're looking for.

Good luck,
Co-Moderator, Bipolar Forum
Bipolar II

"Bipolar disorder can be a great teacher. It's a challenge, but it can set you up to be able to do almost anything else in your life." - CARRIE FISHER

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