Husband thought I was "faking" bi-polar

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   Posted 2/13/2010 9:18 AM (GMT -7)   
confused I just found out that the 28 years I was diagnosed bi-polar, my husband thought I was faking my symptoms.  Two years ago he decided it was for real.   Now I am a rapid cycler, have been hospitalized several times, had major depressivesive say the least it has been hectic and traumatizing.  I just can't get past the fact that he thought I was a "faker" what does that say of his opinion of me.  I am terribly hurt.  One side of things, is now I understand some of his behavior when I was supposedly "faking" it.  Twice he made me drive myself to the emergency room alone when I was toxic on tegretal and then later lithium.  I was in no condition to drive.  Then he threw a fit at the hospital, demanding I be released (even tho, I was on suicide watch).  The hospital finally released me in his custody with him signing a paper that he would waTCH ME AND NOT LEAVE ME ALONE FOR 24 HOURS.  well, he drove me home, dropped me off in the driveway, drove away and left me alone for 24 hours.   The list just goes on and on.  At the time I thought I was so "bad" that I deserved this treatment.  And apparently with him thinking I was "faking", he thought I was bad. I am absolutely blown away that for that long nad for how much I struggled, he could think I was faking it.  His opinion of me must have been horrible.  Now that he believes I am bi-polar, he is supportive.  He says I have to let go of the past.....but right now I am too angry and hurt. How the heck could he think and act like I was faking it for 26 years????  I need to understand how this happened and how he could be so cruel for all those years.  I am very confused.

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   Posted 2/13/2010 10:13 AM (GMT -7)   
My exhusband thought I was faking.  Growing up, my familiy thought it was an attentio-seeking act.  They still haven't accepted it.  I am thankful for my SO, who is so supportive.

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   Posted 2/13/2010 9:47 PM (GMT -7)   


   My family kept hoping for a misdiagnosis. The thing was when i was finally diagnosed and learned about it, it felt completely right.  I can't believe someone would think you would fake such an illness.  I know people who dont have depression feel that people who do should "just get over it".

   All in all it's like trying to make a man understand child birth, we can understand all the clinical stuff, but we will never really know what it feels like. Same for depression and bipolar, only those of us who suffer from it  truly understand the depth of its reach.

    Hope things go better for you


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   Posted 2/14/2010 6:13 PM (GMT -7)   
Some of my family, notably my mother, also believes that I only "do" this for attention. (Like we would choose to live this way!) She's come around to understanding it's a medical diagnosis, but still half believes it's fake.

I'm so sorry about your husband, moody. Are you in therapy at all? This would be high on my list of things to talk about with a counselor.

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