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   Posted 3/3/2010 12:43 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi all,
I decided that I needed to change my t who has cancled on me numerous times and my pdr because the one I have I feel just dosent get it! I have an appt for tonight and I am trying to be optomistic about it. I have had a very baddddddd week. I hope that this t will be better than my last and that I will feel more like talking to him. My last t was a women. I do not like wemen. I am a women and I know most of the forum are women and I love you all! I just feel like women are back stabbers and liars. I only have a few and I mean very few female friends. I have always had guy friends and we were only frinds. My best friend that I have now is my husband and then is the runner up is my one guy friend and we have been friends since the 5th grade over 20 years ago. How does everyone feel about having a different gender t?  I was sexualy abused as a child and that my not be easy to talk about with a guy. Right? I hope that I can get off some of the meds I am on I think that could be why I lost my job (other post). I  am slow and feel like I am underwater and it is like people are talking to me but I can hear but not comprihend what they are saying and my spelling and speach have been affected. If anyone has insite on this please let me know. Even if it is 2 weeks from now I would like to see what other people feel so I can make a good decision. I can always stay with my old t and pdr.  Thank you all for your support on this subject.

happy bill
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   Posted 3/3/2010 8:57 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey SLZ, well your not alone, i myself feel very safe and comfortable around women and both my Pdoc and Therpast were women. For whatever reason i just felt that i could open up and talk to them in ways that i didnt talk to other people.
Now to add in details i am very results driven and i WANTED to make progress. I viewed it as a challenge and took it on in a 20 round bout. Yea, guess what its a marathon not a sprint. LO LO LOL

But i support your decission to change docs. Just because you got a degree doesnt mean you are automaticly a good doctor. I feel i lucked out and had a good pair of docs to help me out. My wife on the other hand is trying a new doc also since she cant seem to get out of her depressions she suffers from.

And yes, i feel that doctors are to quick to prescribe every pill they can to "numb" us to life. Most hear your issues and say here, take this pill. Great more pills with more side effects, no thanks. I believe that if possible you should achieve a truce with this beast, and learn to live with it as best you can without a ton of pills. It is harder but you dont walk thru life feeling like you are missing it. I have my up days and my down days, but the highs arnt as high as they used to be and the lows arent as low. In short i just have to suck it up and live it.

Thats what works for me, however you are a differnet person from me.

I hope this helps you a bit.


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   Posted 3/4/2010 6:38 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks Bill,
I think it went well last night I go back next week and I am on a cancl list for a pdr. I am trying to have a optomistic outake on this. Thank You for making me feel not alone in haveing a deferent sex t.

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   Posted 3/4/2010 6:48 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi slz,

I feel the opposite about doctors/therapists -- I always prefer women. I find them more empathetic a lot of times. And I feel more comfortable talking to them about intimate details. Nonetheless, I can totally see where you're coming from about preferring men. I think we need to go with whatever feels best to us.

I think it's a good move to get a new therapist. It's overwhelming starting over, but yours is just too unavailable.

Good luck!
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   Posted 3/4/2010 1:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Thank You Sarafena!!! I understand both points of view. I know what you mean about empathy. I have considered this but feel that I did speak better with the male in one session. All I can do is try it out again this will be my 4 t. Not because I did not like them but they left the practice or did not show for my appointments. I will keep you posted on how this all goes down.

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