Just found out my husband has bipolar disorder

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   Posted 3/7/2010 10:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi everyone i am very new to this whole thing so bare with me. I found out my husband is bipolar has add and depression with sleep problems.  It is very hard for me to cope with because i dont know what to do.  I am also supposed to be tested for depression and bipolar disorder on tuesday, but i am so worried i have a one year old (almost two) and a new baby.  If we are both diagnosed with mental disorders what will happen, i dont want to give up breastfeeding which is why i have not been tested before now.  I also dont know how to handle my husband.  he started talking to me after the first pills started working and i kicked him out of the house for the night.  I just really am confused, and to top it off I dont know if i have the same problems.  We are going to start going to counsling, we have for two visits now.  they suggested we both continue weekly and possibly more once they get to know how my husbands meds workout, and maybe mine later.  I have gotten to the point where i dont really have any help with my new baby, including by my husband, and when he cries i am so tired and down on myself that i just want to shake him till he shuts up. (i never have, and i know that i wont).  but i also have been thinking of suicide, which i also dont understand because my mind thinks of it but at the same time i know i would never do it because of my children.  it is like my head tells me two complete things at exactly the same time.  i just dont know how to cope with everything my husband was diagnosed with, not understanding any of it at all, or how the meds are supposed to work.  and then try and cope with two small children if i have some of the same problems.  please help!!! i really need it right now before something in my head snaps and i do something stupid.

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   Posted 3/7/2010 11:28 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi there!  When my son was a baby was some of the worst mood swings I have had.  It was the worst.  But my doctor did have me on mood stabilizers while breastfeeding, so maybe take a look into it with your doctor. 
I completely understand where you are coming from!  My XDH is likely bipolar (not diagnosed) plus me (not diagnosed at the time).  He was having an affair and NEVER ONCE helped with my son.  He is not involved in my son's life now.
Believe it WILL get better.  (((hug)))

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   Posted 3/7/2010 2:15 PM (GMT -7)   


   First of all, dont feel like this is the end of the world. DOes he have a mental disorder? Yes, does it mean he is condemned to a life in a mental instution, NO. Many of us on here are very successful and have incorperated the the bipolar into our lives, or at the least hae  atruce with it and work around the problem. I myself have a lot of hypomanias that with medication is undercontrol.  I get just enough of the mania to be productive but not enough to cause problems in my marriage  and life.

    The biggest thing i can tell you to help you out is this. If the worst comes to worst and you are bipolar, dont duck it or hide from it. This desease florishes in a enviroment of ignorance and denial. My success was fully based on a few things, one was getting a good medicine into my system to bring me down to "normal".  Next was being willing to have somone help me to help myself. I really embraced my therpay and read as much as i could, asked all the questions i could, and really opened up and was honest, brutally honest about what i had did, what i was thinking , and how i was feeling.

   Finally we are here for you  and him. We have been there and done that on most of the bipolar screwups you can make. We all here have had money issuse, sex issues, depressions, manias, gambling, alchol, drugs, you name. it. Just because we went thru it doesnt mean you will. I for one have had no problems with drugs, gambling, or alchol, however depression and sex have been my bug-a-boos. LOL LOL LOL

    You are not alone, and scary as this it, you will move on and learn to live with it and be successful. We are here for you and you can ask any question, we are nonjudgemental and a very very supportive group here.



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