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   Posted 3/19/2010 9:06 AM (GMT -7)   
So talking about everything I've been going through has helped me a lot. Specifically I talk about everything with you guys and my mom. I have a friend of similiar intellectual caliber that I had a great discussion with last night about it. I have another friend who has been dealing with psych problems since coming home from Iraq and I have talked to him more about the medication side. I sat down with my boss, who is a good friend, and one co-worker I close the store with most and let them know about my doctors appointment and that I am going through some big changes and might need a little space/patience on their part.
So far it has been painless, but all of these people are cloes and relate well to me. Thy know me well enough to see that I do need help and they want the best for me. There has of course been a little spill over, overheard conversations, prodding roommates, people I didn't really want to deal with it with. The biggest reaction from them is more along the lines of skepticism. They are misinformed and have skewed ideas about the disorder and what exactly it is or is not.
To complicate things, I have been having a little romance the last month for the first time in a long time, and I am reluctant to bring it up with her. We were talking about our families on our first date and share a pretty common family history and both admitted we had some screwy head problems, lol. I mentioned that I had been thinking about going to the doctor because I have a family history of depression and bipolar, she encouraged it but freaked out about bipolar. She said something to the effect of "I can see you being depressed, but not bipolar. Just don't say that, I don't want to think about it." I'm fairly certain she has had bad experiences with out of control bipolar relatives, and I'm really reluctant to talk to her about it. She knows I went to the doctor, knows I started meds, but we haven't talked about it. (It's a bit of a distance thing, and we only actually hang out every couple weeks. I want to have this conversation in person).
Anyways, any help would be much appreciated :)

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   Posted 3/19/2010 10:39 AM (GMT -7)   
I can understand why she might be scared of the whole 'bipolar monster', especially if she's had bad experiences.  But my opinion is that if she's into you, she's into you.  The fact that it now has a label shouldn't change that fact.  You're on medication, you're doing what you need to in order to keep it in check, end of story.  Easy for me to say, I know :)  I've always been pretty open about being bipolar - I figure that if it scares people away, then it's THEIR loss, not mine :)  It makes me who I am and I'm pretty fun to be around (most of the time).  Even when I'm in a bad mood, people find me entertaining and i'm ok with that. 
"...i am 32 flavors and then some..." ~ ani difranco
and yes, you can call me Carrie :)

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   Posted 3/19/2010 12:30 PM (GMT -7)   
haha, I can relate to that. It takes people a little while to get used to me, but as long as I don't allow myself to pick on someone (man, I am great at bringing people up but I think I'm just as good at tearing people down!), then people usually get a good chuckle when I'm in a bad mood. Sometimes it hurts, if I'm really depressed, but if I'm doing okay it actually cheers me up a little to hear someone say "Look out, here comes frumpy!".

I want to help people, that is my basic life goal, and being open about our problems is the best way to do that, it's hard though.

happy bill
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   Posted 3/19/2010 2:50 PM (GMT -7)   


    My family and close friends all know, as do my bosses as my part time jobs. I am such a live wire and i do believe in the truth, if for no other reason than its easy to remember.

   But you all know me by now, i tend to wear this BP thing on my sleeve and the heck with who knows. Honestlly it's not like it was my fault that i got BP. I didnt do a drug or hit my head or engaged in a risky behavior and i ended up with BP.

  Besides in many ways i feel both special and blessed to carry such a burden/oppertunity around with me every day. I get to live  a life less ordinary  and in that respect it has been worth all the pain associated with it.



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