Do you ever get a day off? It's important! Not just for your sanity, but to ensure you are appreciated.
I'm a stay-at-home momma. I keep the house clean, lunch on the table at 12:10, dinner by 6:00, laundry done, animals cared for, gardens tended, shopping done, etc.
But I DO NOT do housework on the weekends. I'll do yardwork because I love it. I take care of the dogs and my rabbits. But I don't do anything that isn't necessary.
Sure it leaves a HUGE mess to clean up on Monday morning, but the mess is a weekly reminder to my SO of how much I actually do during the week.
I think it's time for your husband to step up and take control of something for you. My XDH left everything to me. The bills were especially stressful because there was never enough money to go around. Even now, financial stuff causes me to have fits of anxiety. I avoid going to the bank at almost any cost. It took me 7 months to pay my property taxes, and it wasn't for lack of $ (it was in escrow) but I couldn't manage the stress of it.
My SO takes care of all the $, except my marital debt. It's been such a huge relief that I've been able to do a little bit more than I expected. I have been able to earn enough money to cover my car payment, even though he plans on paying it. I'm starting to gain some confidence.
Just 1 day off a week, and 1 responsibility handed off to your husband (that he takes over, not you having to pull teeth!) could do so much for you. It could do a lot for your marriage too - 1 less fight to stress out over. :)
We've said a couple times what your husband appears to be deficient in. But definitely DON'T nag him! The best way to change behavior is through rewards. Look for EVERY LITTLE thing he does to support you - or at least try to support you. Thank him, appreciate him. It will encourage him to do more for you. :warmfuzzyfeelings:
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