Let me start by saying that i am youung and so is she. I am 22 and she is 20, we have been married for 2 years. I own two companies and she does not work, she has a tendency to put up threats of divorce quickly. She has always had horrible mood shifts for unexplainable reasons but let me explain my last one. Its always the same thing with a different story.
about 3 weeks ago i saw her mood shifting, she slowly started to get short and coy with me. The smallest thing would set her off for hours or days. I was working in the yard about 3 weeks ago and i came in from planting some trees, she was in a bad mood already, but i mentioned something about the house smelling like a dog, she laid into me about how hard she works (which she really does not), and it just started a storm. I wasnt meaning anything by what i said and usually this would not set her off. From this point on it was thin ice. Everything i say, she takes badly. This is just the beginning of the cycle, she still tells me she loves me at night and stuff at this point.
So the week goes on and i work/computer work at home. She starts on me about being on my computer too much, which i am, i admit it, but it is how i make a living. Without it, there would be no house, or food.
Everything thing that happens between us is automatically relayed to her mom and streched so it looks like im cussing and yelling at her (which im not, in any way shape of form) ill give you and example...... a few weeks ago she asked if i wanted a bagle, i said no, i dont really want one right now i dont feel that good. She proceeds to call her mom one min later and tell her that she was trying to be nice to me and offer me a bagle and i told her I dont want a F'n bagle i hate thoes dam things?/?? i was very confused, and confronted her about it, this started a fire and she was on edge the whole day.
She hates to be confronted about anything.
So the week continues and i have to leave for virginia to work a pepsi project. When im leaving she is crying and telling me how much she misses me already and she wishes i wouldnt go and on and on about nice gushy stuff. So on my drive im texting her and she is all right, buy the time i get to my hotel that night she is pissed off at me about god knows what and by day two she is telling me she is going to leave me. I wasnt even there to set her off, i have no clue what i said to her that made her this way. So i ask her what i always ask her, i say "baby, what did i do to make you mad"? she replies with a coy "your just an ass". She will never give me a single specific. EVER.
So i return from the trip and the first day or so she is threatening me with divorce and staying at her moms house, i find that she has been lieing to her mom about all kind of stuff about me to get them to hate me (for some unknown reason) so i confront her mom. We talk for a few hours and i guess her mom confronts her about the lies, i dont know what was said but all i kknow is that 2 hours later my wife is back at the house, Happy and go lucky like nothing ever happened. I try to talk to her about it and she just says that it wont happen again and she dont want to talk about it.
So we have a good time for 3 days and she gets really moody again. She starts looking for things to argue about it seems, she gripes at me for nothing and swithces her cell phone service. She tells me that im trying to hold her back and shes gonna divorce me, so this time i say we shoud see a marriage counselor. She agrees. The guy we end up seeing is no help at all, he suggest a vacation or something so i take the advice and book a suprise trip to a mountain cabin.
She is excited and loving it for the first day or two, and saturday nite she says she is sorry and dont know what she was thinking when she was mad. She promises she wont run off or do this again. We wake up sunday morning and she is a different person it seems, she is looking for a fight and hate me, we get home and she says she gonna get a divorce and goes to stay with her mom. We havent had a single cross word?? i have no clue what she is mad about. So today is monday and all ive herd from her is that she dont want to see our counselor today so i canceled the appointment.
Any advice on this, im lost here. I cant even solve the problem because i dont know what she is even mad about, i dont think she knows what she is mad about???? im really confused on this one and its starting to really get me down. Her mom agrees that she is very moody and makes a habbit of ignoring her when she has her cycles. This happens about once every 3 to 6 months it seems.