ok so Im trying to make a long story short , please bear with me :)
I have recently moved in with my BF and we are re doing the house to make room for my kids who are moving in in a few weeks. (their dad has them for the summer) so BF tells me that he doesnt want me to lose my motivation bc I do fall into a slump sometimes... So he was pressuring me to get things in order here. I bought bunkbeds for the kids, and moved all the furniture out of the office , large , HEAVY furniture, the computer, etc... It was hard to do by myself, but I felt like superwoman so I did it. I put together the beds and it took me over 4 hours just to do that. I cleaned out the enormous amounts of clutter, boxes , and junk , box it all up and put it in the garage, dusted , vacuumed , you name it , It got done yesterday. AND his laundry was done, the house was spotless, and dinner was ready when he came home to top it all off.
So I told him that the desk was too heavy and was going to need his help moving it ( it is 300 pounds, and about 6 1/2 ft long) BUT that is the only thing I didnt get done, and it was bc I couldnt not physically do it alone. He agreed to help , and we couldnt get the thing out the door , it was too big and too heavy. So he got really frustrated.. making smart commetns , like " you should not have done any of this crap" " now look at what im having to do" He had to take the door off the hinges to get the desk out of the office. So we did that part... the desk fell on his foot and cut it real bad, and he was not happy.
So we get it into the room to set it up and it falls apart. Im getting yelled at bc the desk is falling apart, " you MUST have done something wrong, its falling apart, you must have taken out the wrong screws. Hes underneath it , and Im trying my best to hold it up , it was so heavy , and hes yelling at me " YOU HAVE TO HOLD THE DA*N THING UP, CAN YOU HOLD IT PLEASE???" I ignored it .... and I took as much as I could take. ...
At this time he was really hot and the air , for some reaon had not kicked on in a while.... so he goes to the thermostat and starts yelling " ITS 80 DEGREES IN THIS HOUSE, DONT YOU KNOW TO TURN THE THERMOSTAT DOWN??? " THing is , I had been *TRYING* to get it to kick on for the past few hours , and it hadnt worked yet.... temp jsut kept on climbing.... I tried to tell him that , and he jsut kept on and on .... " Well you should have opened the windows, it should not be hotter in here than it is outside< dont you realize that???"
I LOST IT at this point..... I said you are on my last nerve! I cant do anything right and youre not going to yell at me ANYMORE. I threw the screwdriver and told him to put the desk together by himself and SEE how far that got him!!!
SO we got into a huge fight after this ... I told him that I was not his mule, and that NOTHING gets done if i dont do it. I have rearranged his entire house, moved everything around , cleaned out everything .... I have done the work of ten men in the past few weeks. And all I get is this.
I left .... I went to the store , bought a bottle of rum and sat in walmart parking lot and DRANK. then he started calling ... asking me to come hom , that he was sorry ... etc etc . I agreed to come home. When I walked in , he hugged me , said he was sorry , and asked me to come eat something. I sat on the couch , and I didnt say anything for awhile.
Then I got up and started to empty the dishwasher, and he made another smart comment.... He said " I dont understand , you tell me you want to do all these things with the house, then you depend on me to finish it when I get home from work" WHAT?!?!?! that is NOT true... Not even in an alternate universe is that statement true!
I said it was a mistake to come home ... he said " yeah it was " So I left again .... with NO plans of returning. I got a hotel room and I laid in bed and watched tv all night. He text me until 3 am beggin me to come home ... H*LL NO is all I kept saying. ....
So , as bad as I hate to admit it ... Im back home now.... I guess i proved my point thought .... I jsut could NOT be around him last night.
He tells me im being "irrational " again bc I left and didnt come home .....