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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/9/2010 9:05 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello,  I guess that I am not supposed to use my real name, so, you can call me just for me.  I am married although not happily.  I have 3 children of my own and they are 20, who is in prison, 15, and as of sunday 7-11-10, she will be 13.  I also have 4step-children, ages, 21, 20,17,and 13.  I have bi-polar disorder, OCD and post tramatic stress disorder, I have medicine and I do not like to take it.  I live in an abusive relationship that very few people know about and I am afraid all the time, even worse, I am afraid to leave.  I need some help and the only friend that I can really talk to about this is a guy and he wants to be more then friends, so you can guess what he is telling me to do.  Any advise would be greatly appreciated and will be truly taken to heart, because you people will probably understand me more then anyone else, because you live with some of the same problems.
Thanks Me

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Date Joined Jan 2010
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   Posted 7/9/2010 9:43 AM (GMT -7)   
Hello dear. Time to get copies of your driver's license, SS card, kid's birth certificates, etc. and put them in a hidden place in your car (I hope you have one). Start your own little stash of money - $1 at a time WILL add up!

And LEAVE! As fast as you can!

GET HELP IMMEDIATELY when you leave. Restraining order, refuge home, MOVE 149 miles away. Get a lawyer - somehow. Take self-defense classes, get a gun and learn how to use it. Get a dog that bites.

You are in more danger after you leave than you are now. But it will pass and you will be so much better for it.

Been there, done that. You won't regret it.

Bipolar 1
Borderline Personality Disorder
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
Panic Disorder

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Date Joined Jun 2010
Total Posts : 127
   Posted 7/11/2010 10:50 AM (GMT -7)   
Is there a local legal services/legal aid where you live? (If there's a law school nearby, it would also have a legal aid clinic that's staffed by law students and whose services are free.) They provide low-cost legal services on a sliding scale; sometimes the legal aid is free. They could help you get a temporary or permanent restraining order against your husband.

Is there a refuge house that you could move into? If so, pack a few things, and move out whenever your husband isn't around. The location of such a refuge house is kept secret, and your husband will not be able to find you.

Is there a helpline where you live? Call them and ask for help. They've been trained to help in abusive situations such as yours.

Call your local sheriff's or police department; they often have community advocates who are trained to deal with situations exactly like yours.

I know you're scared, but there are things you can do to get out of your situation.

I hope that, the next time we hear from you, you'll be out of your house and safe.

Concernedly yours,
Havana (nonpracticing attorney)
bipolar II, panic/anxiety disorder, fibromyalgia/chronic fatigue syndrome 
current meds: Clonazepam, 0.5 mg prn; Topamax, 50 mg

happy bill
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   Posted 7/11/2010 3:08 PM (GMT -7)   
  How you doing and welcome to a great forum. We have lots of nice people here who have alot to offer.
   I would suggest from my experience that a affair isnt the way to make things right. I have been down this road and i can tell you it doesnt end well. People get angry when youleave them, they lose their minds when you cheat on them. What ever reason it is in all of us to lose our minds when we are cheated on.
   Keep posting and we can be friends (Without benifits) tongue   tongue tongue tongue     honestly he is just trying to trap you into a relationship where he has all the control, because  youwould be dependet  on him. Not a good place to be.
   "If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade"
   "It isn't my fault that i am BiPolar, It is my responsibility how i treat it so that i don't hurt others or myself."  Happy Bill
   Meds. Respirdal  0.5 a day, more if needed.

just for me
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Date Joined Jul 2010
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   Posted 7/11/2010 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I don't think I could ever have an affair, i am just not programmed like that, I have one friend that I can talk to and cry on his sholder, but I would never have an affair with him.
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