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   Posted 8/10/2010 7:02 PM (GMT -7)   
My girlfriend is Bi-Polar and I love her to the point of doing anything I can to help.
My question is. When she is down. Do I try to bring her back up. Do I force her to get out of bed? Can she beat this by thinking positive?
A few weeks ago she almost lost me by being very rude and mean. I had driven 1000 miles to see her and she was almost to the point of being a Jeckel and Hyde. It came to the point that I had to leave and go back home and tell her that it was over before she stopped. She then told me that she was upset that she had lost her job and that the changes because of that made her go into a episode. She then asked me to please stay with her. Everyone else had left her and she needed a friend.
How do I handle things? She has already had a bad week when she has stayed in bed for days. Do I let her do this or do I say something?
Thanks in advance for all the help..

Bill McNamara

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   Posted 8/10/2010 8:31 PM (GMT -7)   
Hey there Bill. Well, you can only do so much. When I'm in my depressed state, there is NOTHING that anyone can say or do to get me out of it. It just has to run its course. Although, you can be there for her. Encouraging her to get up and do something is always good, but be careful not to push things on her. That always frustrates me more, then sends me deeper into the depression because I'm feeling bad for blowing up at someone. Is she on any meds? I wish you both the best.
I know I'm not perfect, and I don't live to be...But before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean. - Bob Marley

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   Posted 8/10/2010 11:56 PM (GMT -7)   
   Its very hard for people wwho have never suffered depression or mania to understand what goes on inside our heads when we are down or manic.
   My advice, from a person who suffers BP and also deals with a with a wife who has bad depression is to learn to let it go. I just don't take it personally when she is upset, and i understand what depression is and how it affects the mind.
   Acceptance in the end is what allows me to live with her. I understand that she isnt doing this just be mean, its a chemical imbalance that she has very little control over. SO when she is down i help by doing what i can, but in the end i let it run its course and wait for her to come back to me on the other side of depression. 
   "If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade"
   "It isn't my fault that i am BiPolar, It is my responsibility how i treat it so that i don't hurt others or myself."  Happy Bill
   Meds. Respirdal  0.5 a day, more if needed.
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