Its very hard for people wwho have never suffered depression or mania to understand what goes on inside our heads when we are down or manic.
My advice, from a person who suffers BP and also deals with a with a wife who has bad depression is to learn to let it go. I just don't take it personally when she is upset, and i understand what depression is and how it affects the mind.
Acceptance in the end is what allows me to live with her. I understand that she isnt doing this just be mean, its a chemical imbalance that she has very little control over. SO when she is down i help by doing what i can, but in the end i let it run its course and wait for her to come back to me on the other side of depression.
"If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade"
"It isn't my fault that i am BiPolar, It is my responsibility how i treat it so that i don't hurt others or myself." Happy Bill
Meds. Respirdal 0.5 a day, more if needed.