It all has to start with her gettign diagnosed and ACCEPTING that she has a problem. If she doesnt or wont accept that then the relationship is a no go. And honestly it took alot of us hitting really rock bottom to accept that maybe the problem was with us, and not with the world at large.
And you ahve to understand that failure is an option here. Loveing a BP person isnt something you get right the first time. Practice, practice, practice and even then its no guanrtee. Think about it this way, when you first shot in the military, didnt you get better with practice? Got probally pretty good also. But the first time you were under fire (If you were) almost everyones accuracy goes out the window. Its only after you live a bit under fire for a while do you learn to cope with it well. Thats perfect training for living with a BP person. We have the ability to move moutains one day, and to be struck down by our own minds the next. We are both increadibility powerful and unbelieveablity fragile at the same time.
For us normal emotional swings are not in the picture. We swing wildly from one pole to the other. Medication helps but short of drugging us into a stupor we allways still have the problems, they are just more managable.
"If Life Gives You Lemons, Make Lemonade"
"It isn't my fault that i am BiPolar, It is my responsibility how i treat it so that i don't hurt others or myself." Happy Bill
Meds. Respirdal 0.5 a day, more if needed.