I go through this with my husband. Sorry to say, but she remembers everything and knows when she has blown things out of proportion, afterwards. It more than likely is separate episodes. One day, week, month, I hated him, I really did and it was mainly because I thought all those things about him. He wasn't there for me enough, he didn't show enough affection, etc. When in reality it was just my messed up perception of things because of my moods, or just simply because of my moods. Then, I only wanted to be near him and love him and cuddle, etc. It went back and forth for a long time...until I got on meds. Things got better until recently when I went off of my meds because I found out I was pregnant. Now, we're going through some of it again. It's just her moods...Sometimes he just simply walks away when I start that stuff, then I'm left alone to think about things and try to calm myself down. Sometimes it gets better, sometimes not. Hope things get better soon for ya'll though. Good luck.
I know I'm not perfect, and I don't live to be...But before you start pointing fingers, make sure your hands are clean. - Bob Marley