hey guys, i think i understand what just happened here.
KIKURAS you've been really hurt and are speaking from your experiences. you wanted to warn and protect someone that you say was in what you believed to be a similar situation as yourself so that he wouldn't have to feel the pain, anger, sadness...in general, end up in a situation like yours. ...and that's completely understandable and justifited. some people don't realize they need help and have damaged other's beyond compare. for instance, my aunt. she has torn a part our family, makes everyone misreable, and refusing to seek help.
i understand where you're coming from. maybe what tortoise was picking up was that you were really focused on your situation and not nepalion's. his wife is seeking help. she is a different person. not everyone with bipolar 1) reacts the same 2) has the same symptoms 3) chooses to live the same. it's hard because people with bipolar disorders like the one you have encountered have shaped an image as to what healthier people think of us. i'm not saying you do not have a right to feel that way. you're hurt. i would just maybe encourage you to realize not everyone is like your wife that has this disorder, which was i think tortoise was getting at.
it kinda hurt when you said to run away from people like us, but i realized you don't mean us, but people like your wife which makes sense because that is what you've been exposed to. who wouldn't say that if they weren't looking at the bigger picture. ...but you can't put people into big sweeping groups, it's not accurate. we're all individuals making individual choices. and personally, i've been a great influence on my family, unite them, and have mader their relationships better and i have bipolar II disorder. i even have a boyfriend and we have a better relationship than most married couples.
so, maybe i'd encourage you to address your advice as speaking from your own experiences, taking in consideration that situations and people are different. ...but i understood the pain in your voice when you said you were frustrated and wanted to protect your kids. that's completely justifiable in your situation. i think turtiose might have been offended by just the stereotype you casted us all in without thinking. did i sound unstable to you in my first post? do i sound unstable to you now? there's more that makes me up than my disease and i chose to get help, take medicatin, and act a certain a way because the people in my life are important to me and i love them.
does this makes sense on both sides? because i think KIKURAS has positive things to contribute if he considers being sensitive/ phrasing things in different ways/ keeping in mind not all people are like that...but in his situation a person was. he needs just as much help as people on this site. is looking to be accepted and understood by fellow people here. i just hope i'm a person that may appear different to you KIKURAS. there are both people like me and people like your wife out there. i do everything i can to make sure my life is in control and don't hurt the people i care about
. nepalion has to come to his own decision with the passing of time if his wife is really changing for the better, and it appears to me like she's on her way. but i also agree with you 100%, the first thing any person has to do is watch out for themselves in any situation. my best friend had a very similar experience with a woman that sounds like your wife, but he is friends with me and tells me constantly (because i worry) that i'm nothing like her.
i think if we all try to be sensitive and understanding eveything will work out.
Bipolar II disorder
medication: Celexa, Prazosin, and actually Jolessa helps curve the mood swings too.
healing is hard work but even the smallest step of progress is worth it.
each minute we chose to live is a victory.
Post Edited (maddie48) : 3/15/2011 9:00:28 PM (GMT-6)