OK, Here is my Husband's new story. Yesterday he asked me if he got all the help he needed and got better if I would give him a chance and for us to save our marriage. Most of you know my story well. He walked out about
7 weeks ago and Left me and our 4 children. He has been living at his mom's 5 hours away from us.
It took him 7 weeks to realize what he had?! At first it was because he said he didn't want to be married and that he didn't love me. Then his story was that he does love me but he doesn't want to live in the countryside he wanted to move back to the city. Now his story is he wants to live here again, but if I don't take him back he will rent an apartment close to our home. I feel he is just chasing clouds. He doesn't really know what he wants.
I told him even though I love him very much I need to protect my heart at this time. I told him it's not fair for me that I remain with someone that loves me one day and then the other day he doesn't. He told me I was right and that he knows his illness has caused me a lot of stress and heartache and that he was sorry that he had this awful illness. I told him he didn't have to apologize because it's not his fault. And that I wished he never had it. But I need time to heal for me right now.
I feel maybe if he decides to live here & rent an apartment, that we should seek therapy together because what ever the outcome is I feel if we end our marriage I want a Healthy Exit.
Do you all think I said the right things?
I dont want to be selfish , but I want things to be done right. And what he did, even though it was the very first time, it hurt me to my core.
Thank you for all your support.