Hi , iv just joined the site and there are loads of helpful ideas here, thank you. my boyfriend is bipolar he is undiagnosed but told me early in the relationship that he was. He was very loving and caring at first and hid away when his depression hit. Slowly he let me see this and then I witnessed what appeared to be a hypomanic phase or a manic phase. He seems to rapid cycle , aggressive verbally, picking fights, putting me down, then sometimes up to euphoric and often delusional in his thinking. After experiencing the high side when we were on holiday I knew I had to educate myself so I read and read and found people on line to give me information.
He moved in with me 6 months ago, his choice completely and it's very hard. To focus this a little iv etwo questions, I want to be able to support him to get medical help, he is adamant that doctors can not understand how he feels and as he was given anti depressants years ago that did not work he thinks nothing will. He is highly intelligent and holds down a very demanding job that he is good at, he does not let himself go at all in his appearance, he works hard. He is not a man you could get to do anything he didn't want to so any angles to follow I would be glad of help. I read the other day of taking the ' you are very successful as you are but all your ambitions could be met if felt better' . I am scared as he can be so nasty, so very hurtful to me.
Second question he seems to have gone off sex completely, for 6 months. I am so lonely. He says he loves me but is not affectionate or rarely, as he is not on medication is this a usual side effect of living with bipolar. When he's high he talks more in a sexual manner but has not made advances to me. He has a big ego and I think sometimes that my success as he sees it, job etc is a turn off for him. I think he'd feel better about
himself if I wasn't successful in my own right. But he says he is proud of me. Sex was never going to be a huge major part of our relationship from the start, it was good but low key, he is quite shy sexually anyway , apart from once when he was high. I have lost my confidence completely in initiating sex with him for fear of being rejected. I told him how much I missed making love with him last weekend and he just hugged me close and kissed me. Before that when I've mentioned it he has told me it's because I am over weight and it's my fault then the next day told me not to change a thing , and how much he loves me. I want to continue in this relationship there is real love there. It's mostly one sided right now but I know he is ill. Any help from those who are bipolar or who have partners who are would be so appreciated thank you