Posted 7/9/2011 8:28 PM (GMT -6)
hi cj, I think you have your own answers. On the thread to Ebony Knight, you said "we must move on past these bad relationships and start new better ones", and I couldn't agree with you more. You have to manage the damage, limit the damage. You have children to you wife and you love her, but is still that is no reason to put up with unacceptable, abusive behaviour. And don't for a moment think it is not abusive. Bipolar or not, it is still extraordinarily harmful behaviour! When we love someone so much, we can be so tempted to go into denial... because managing the situation effectively would mean the loss of someone we love so much. We wonder how our hearts could ever cope with such loss... and it certainly isn't easy to manage that intense grief... but it is possible. You weren't wrong to stay so long... but there probably are a lot of fragmented pieces to pick up and mourn before you can really move on in your heart. And you have no reason to feel guilty. She is still responsible for her choices, bipolar or not, and she continued to make decisions harmful to your relationship to the point it was abusive, unmanageable and hopeless. Everyone has the right to end hopeless relationships. TC, LW.