Posted 7/15/2011 2:50 PM (GMT -7)
Who holds the purse strings in the family? Is it you? And is he always dependent on you for the funds he needs?
Yes, it's largely an illness you are trying to deal with, and it won't get better in the long run until you convince him that he must see a psychiatrist and get on the appropriate medication to help him think clearly and rationally about his life. If he's unwilling to do that, you need to think, as Gettingby has suggested, about leaving. Your own health and safety are in jeopardy.
Your thread indicates that he is calling you about all this. Does he no longer live in the same home with you? If not, I'd try to see that he didn't come back until he was medicated and safe to be in your presence. His motivation may be entirely different from what you believe it to be.
Frankly, he sounds very childlike and unable to get in touch with his
adult within. Until he does so, you are really dealing with a little boy
who has an illness that will give him delusions about who other people are, what their motivations are, and how they are trying to help.
If I were you, I'd see a psychiatrist to learn definitely what you are dealing with and what the recommendations are for you for the future.
Follow his recommendations, please.
Take care of yourself first now.