Hi, I've been diagnosed with bipolar type 1, rapid cycling, and mixed states. I have a psychiatrist I see about every 3 months and I see a therepist about once a week. I do have understanding of my bipolar, and a realization of about what is going on, due to the fact of my interest on how peoples minds work and how they react to things, as well as growing up with my mother haveing bipolar, rapid cycling and mixed states as well. My mind and such are always conflicting with everything. I have about gotten over trying to control it and trying to combat my mood swings. I don't always like how I react to things and making it difficult on the people around me. I can't work because of my mood swings and the physical problems that I have. I take Amitriptyline for it because the mood stabilizers do not help me at all because of my body chemisty. So far this is the best medication we have found. It doesn't help too much with my moodswings but sometimes it helps shut up my mind so that I may sleep to help knock off some of the high as well as try to keep me from hitting rock bottom on a low.
Anyway, I was reading what you all have said on this board and thought I might be able to give a bit of an insight about the men "falling out of love". I have had problems with relationships because I would be with a wonderful guy and love him with all of my heart one day and the next not love him at all. This really disturbed me. I have hurt many guys because of this and i'm not happy about it. I am really sorry for you both having to go through it. I know it is not a pleasureable experiance. (Sorry I am really horrible on explaining things as well as trying to collect my thoughts to try and get to a point, I had it all figured out kind of until I started typing lol). Ericka Jean, it sounds like to me he isn't really sure what he wants and that he is confused about his own feelings and such, which is completly typical from what I have seen. And from the fact that he doesn't want to admit that he might be bipolar might also signal that he doesn't really know what bipolar really is. He might still be on the kick that he thinks he can control it and that he doesn't need any help what so ever. Most of us go through this phase a few times, it is part of the manic but we can keep thinking this even when we are depressed. I know that I'll take something completly wrong and even though five minutes later when my mood is different and I'm not really angry about it anymore i'll try to hold onto being angry because I think that that is what I should be feeling, i'm completly stubborn. It also might be that he is stubborn about this, or that he still thinks what a lot of people think about bipolar who really don't know anything about it. I've heard people talking really bad about people with bipolar because of some bad experiances they've had with it and really do not understand it. We do go through the moods of falling out of love with someone, it can be very tramatic for both people. After the devorce and about a few months to a couple of years he will most likely come back to you, it depends on how often he swings.
When he is telling you one thing and telling someone else another thing then coming up with an excuse of why he said it is another thing that bipolars do. A mood will hit us to were we believe and think one thing then later on we will believe and think something completly different and try to cover up the fact that we ever thought something different. I do it a lot... It may be that he doesn't even know he is doing this.
His sister may have bipolar too... It can be passed down from parent to child. It's a chemical imbalance. (lol you might have read that in your book so you most likely already know this). I'm not sure exactly what to say next about all this, i'm sorry. But maybe I might have helped a bit.
Ranman, sometimes a bipolar will show signs of being ADHD and not really be so. It happens a lot in a manic phase. When my thoughts are racing to where it will not slow down for me to hold on to or catch a thought, I will not be able to pay attention to something for very long. For a bit of an example, my husband (who is also bipolar) will tell me quite frequently that i'm "jumping" because he'll say something and i'll say something completly off subject and he is left trying to figure out what I mean because he is still on the origional subject. There are times when we sit down to talk about what is bothering either one of us and we'll get off subject 10 to 15 times before we get back to the origional subject. Plus when I was in 2nd grade I had a horrible teacher that thought that I was ADD and somehow got the doctor to put me on medication. They put me on Riddlin, which made me into a zombie to where I wouldn't eat anything until the medication wore off. It wasn't helping so they kept uping it until I started seeing snakes come out of the walls. When I got into 3rd grade after the snake thing my mother took me off of it and asked if my teacher noticed any difference, she said she didn't and they figured out that I am dislexic. I think that if they also really looked they might have found that I was bipolar then but had extremly mild symptoms. Defenatly not as bad and extreme as they are now.
It is a bit hard for someone who is not a bipolar to completly understand someone who is bipolar. I'm not saying that to be rude or mean. It is wonderful for someone who lives with one to try to understand to the best of their ability of what is going on. I don't know always know myself why I do something or say something. So I don't even understand it all myself sometimes. I don't know how well this might have helped but hopefully I may have helped a little bit.