First time posting here, my wife was diagnosed bipolar 2 about 3 years ago (although the signs have been there all through the 7 year marriage). It's been a struggle for sure, dealing with her manic swings she goes from one interest to another constantly moving, and there has been the finacial burden of mad spending sprees on new hobbies. I have stuck by through them all, trying to remain rock solid for her. about a month and a half ago she came to me out of the blue asking for a divorce, she said she has not been happy for a long time, this I know to be true as I see it myself. I think she either doesn't know how to be happy or is afraid and runs from it when she is. After asking for the divorce, she came to me about a week later and wanted to work on things, saying she felt she was making a horrible mistake. We worked hard on it, myself included, as I have had trouble showing her affection through much of the marriage, things were wonderful for 2 weeks, she said she had never been happier and loved me and was so glad we had decided to stay together. Then the bottom fell out, she went out one night and didn't come home, giving me the excuse she got too drunk and stayed on a friends couch. After that things became strange between us I had a feeling she was lying and my suspicions were soon confirmed, she began getting dressed up and would leave as soon as I got home from work, coming home at all hours of the night. After 2 weeks of this I finally confronted her and she did not deny what was going on, she has met someone and says she needs to start her life over fresh. The way this ended has crushed me seeing her do that with total lack of respect or compassion for me. We also have 2 little boys 3 and 5 who she has all but been ignoring, the only thing on her mind is what can make her happy at the moment. We are both still living in the same house, nothing has changed she goes out every night coming home at 2-4-5 in the morning. This is eating me up, I feel so broken and abandoned, I have to believe the bipolar is part of this, though she says it's not, she says she just needs to start over and she just cannot be with me anymore. Any thoughts or input from people who have dealt with someone in this situation, or someone who has bipolar would be greatly appreciated, this situation just feels overwhelming, devastating. So many questions.....child custody, she says she wants custody which makes more sense due to my job, but is that good for the kids? What if she changes her mind, is it worth trying to get past this? She has filed divorce papers, ( about six weeks ago) but, has not served me with them. She says she is moving out as soon as she can afford to. I still love her and am very concerned about her.