You are so very welcome; I think THIS is where families should come, haha! From the horse's mouth, so to speak.
I feel like this is the most helpful place I have ever been, even moreso than being a nurse all those years. I hope you stick around and ask to your heart's content, we never get tired of helping others understand. (If that's possible, lol).
You sound like such a nice and caring person; he is very very lucky to have you, I just hope he realizes that.
And yes, BPs ALWAYS have many more complex issues than just being bipolar. Lots of personality disorders usually go with it, unfortunately, those sometimes, not always, stay even after we get better. And substance abuse goes hand in hand with it. I did find, though, that when I was stabilized, my cravings for drugs and alcohol is gone. It's the strangest thing. I guess since I'm not either too high or too low, I don't have that driving, incessant need to fix either one or the other. I really didn't expect that to happen, it's just a bonus!
Anyway, it's always nice to talk to you.