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Date Joined Jun 2005
Total Posts : 481
   Posted 9/5/2005 3:29 PM (GMT -7)   
   After posting a question on a topic "BP & DISABILITY"---& asking a simple, innocent, benign question about experiences any people had, while applying for Social Scecurity disabilty benefits----I get hit, with a bunch of attacking posts.
  I only related the info i gained from: 1) talking to SS Disability atty's & 2) doing searches for info.   I'm BP---I've applied for SSD---my financial situation is bad---my wife is staying on her job--when she could be retired & I was looking for support---experiences others could share, so i know what to expect.     So, I get attacked---because i state--
1)-a stat i looked up & got in a booklet from my SS atty    40% of first time applicants get denied!!!   Because----the SS people feel some applicants can do other work.    I----did NOT say that!!!   That is the SS position!   I don't like it any more than you.     
2) The fact that SS uses a "Grid"----to keep the system uniform across the nation---but where---rightly or wrongly---as the atty said---a very important FACTOR...is age---those 55+ are usually granted more leeway.   I didn't say that...that's the way it is.
  Go ahead--do "searches" on "Age and Social Security Disabilty"....or "Social Security Disability Determination Grid"-----I was stating what is....not what should be. 
  I was HOPING to hear from some of first hand experiences---so, i knew what to expect!!!   Instead..i get attacked, with vemonous words by a group of angry, mean spirited women!!!
  Sorry, if any of you take it personally----i was emotionally abused by a BP mother---I'll be da##-ed....if i allow it to happen by other women---now that i'm 59 yrs old!!!
  I came to this group for support--help---etc---& after reading attacking post after attacking post---I get more upset....my wife has suggested i just leave.    She's usually right on things like this.   So, that's what i'll do.
  I taught Jr. High & high school for 17 yrs-----& i saw much more civil conduct , behavior, & caring from adolescent boys & girls---than the "attack" mentality here.   GO ahead---look at my initial post "Bipolar & SS Disabilty".....one woman gets upset because i use the adjective "fascinating" for the SS disabilty Grid-----OK---is that so bad!!!
  Shannon says she got her disability at 37---wonderful---i just said that older age--HELPS your chances---not that it's RIGHT----maybe, Shannon---had you been 55---you would have gotten you disability on your first shot.
  Another posts---"Do you speak French?"        I HOPE the MODERATOR of this board reads this!!!!        Sarcasm, anger, ad hominen attacks...have no place on a supposed "support" group.
  Yes, I'm upset!!   I have a RIGHT to be upset at an assault on me---just as some of you get upset...at the "system"---again--I did not make the rules--i was just quoting what i had found out---AND...was only looking for.........some FIRST HAND ACCOUNTS---Time it took, approval on 1st or 2nd try---etc-----so, i could be prepared.
  This is not the way to conduct a support group!    This is not the way to keep people on board.  I ALWAYS taught my students---to treat others...as we would like to be treated---with courtesy & respect....& others would return in kind.
  This is my second bad experience here---my earlier post--i had humorously mentioned my therapist was attractive.....& I got pummeled....So------after THIS one---where i was ASKING FOR HELP--FOR INFO-----& i get inexplicably attacked-----I AM OUTTA HERE!!!
  I wish it could have turned out differently---i must say there were 2 or 3 people in this group who e-mailed me privately & have been most kind.
  I wish you all well---& i sincerely mean that---BP is no fun----& i don't like having it---& i don't like being attacked & abused.  sad   Sincerely--Robert H.

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Date Joined Aug 2005
Total Posts : 80
   Posted 9/5/2005 4:05 PM (GMT -7)   

WOW!! I don't see it that way. I don't ussually post in this area but I saw your post and checked it out. You sound very angry so, I didn't want to comment w/o reading the posts you refered to. I don't see it the way you do. These ladies didn't apear to be attacking you and I don't know them and have no reason to lie.

I saw a bunch of people sharing their lives with you just like the folks over at chronic pain do.

Your probably having a bad day. They won't hold what you've said here against you. You'd be surprized how compasionate wemen can be. Wait til tomarrow and look again. I hope you will see things differently.

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Date Joined Aug 2005
Total Posts : 289
   Posted 9/5/2005 5:49 PM (GMT -7)   
I dont see it either wotan.  Maybe your just having a bad day?

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Date Joined May 2005
Total Posts : 438
   Posted 9/6/2005 3:14 AM (GMT -7)   
Hmmmmmmmmm..... I attacked the government, then again i am always attacking them. If we can't share our opininons and views on here, then we have issues above and beyond BP. That is all I am going to write.

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Date Joined May 2005
Total Posts : 438
   Posted 9/6/2005 3:20 AM (GMT -7)   
Oh I used the word fascinating, why not. I was simply stating I didn't agree with that. What is your problem? Attacks, looks to me like we merely said what we thought. And of course you didn't make the rules, some incompetent Government groups did. The normal people. I am sorry you feel attacked, then again lately everyone has. I think I act my age, I am an adult and will express my views. Isn't that why we are all individuals here. We are not meant to think exactly alike, we have a difference in my opinion. Sorry you didn't like mine.
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