First let me say I'm so glad I found this site. I've read through some post before deciding to join and seek help of my own. I'm a 46 yr old man married to my soulmate for 4 yrs now. I need some advice.
While we were dating, I noticed some pretty large mood swings that I assumed were due mostly to dealing with her EX and normal lady issues. Now 4 years in, things seem to be getting progressively worse or at least more frequent. I am a pretty good "reader" of people and I've come to my own conclusion that my loving wife is suffering from BP. Some of the signs I see are:
1. We are alone and watching TV enjoying a peaceful evening when one of the children comes home. Her mood totally changes from relaxed loving wife to wanting to just go to the bedroom and be by herself.
2. I've noticed over the years that anytime I have news, she wants to know, but if it's not what she wants to hear she becomes angry, hateful, and cursing. ( that's not her norm by any means )
3. She is highly sensitive to noise. The kids (9,10,13,and 21) are often a trigger for her behavior. If they get loud at all she will put a stop to it immediately or at least she thinks she should. Sometimes we'll be driving and listening to the radio and she'll just reach over and shut it off. She needs silence.
4. Pretty much if things don't pan out like she had in her mind that they should I notice an instant change in personallity, soon followed by self-destructive behavior on her part.
I describe it as she starts drilling a hole for herself, thinking of all the things that happened in the last 6 months that can depress her, and dwells in it.
I am a VERY patient and loving guy. I am just getting worn out. She will push it off to PMS or something that put her in a bad mood earlier, but there was an obvious trigger.
My question is how do I tell her she needs help without upsetting the apple cart?
She is already resistant to taking meds. I'm not sure if she was ever diagnosed before. She acts like she doesn't have problem most of the time. Recently, she's noticed that I am growing really tired of her flare ups. She talked to her Dr about prozac for her PMS but wants to try soy milk first.? I don't suspect either will help. Any advice?
Thanks in advance,