My daughter's boyfriend told her to get out. She began counseling at that point, and the counselor wanted her on drugs. I found out about this when she called and amoung the things she said was that she has thoughts of suicide and "everytime I go to the counselor, I find out more horrible things about myself." She listed off nearly 100 of the negatives (I was writing). That's after 3 sessions.
I didn't like the sound of the counseling and was afraid of her going to the recommended (person) for the meds. I got her into my doctor the day after the phone call to avert that. He put her on Cymbalta, two 20mg a day. One of the things he told her was that it takes time and if she woke up feeling good the next morning, it wasn't right. Well, she did wake up feeling good.
I told her to call the doctor, but when I talked to her late in the evening, she had decided that she woke in a good mood, because this was her last day working the night shift. Now it's the weekend, and I will probably have trouble reaching the doctor, to find out if that was a warning or just a gentle way to say feeling better would take time.
SO QUESTION 1: Does anyone know if feeling better after 24 hours is a bad sign?
I've read the fine print product information from Lilly--the one you have to ask for. It says it's for major depression. I looked MD on the internet, she's got all the symptoms. Also I find out because of this episode that 8 years ago (age 19) she attempted suicide for the same reason she was threatening this time--that boyfriend had enough of her.
My daughter has abandonment issues. First father left (when she was age 3), then he took the older bother (when she was age 6) then middle brother (when she was age 9)--complicated by father never wanting to see her again after he took the middle brother. Prior to that when there were visits, her brothers and the new wife told her things like she would never be a real woman, because she was being raised by her crazy mother. Her father just made promises he didn't keep and ignored her
As a result she has difficulties in relationships. She starts a relationship by being the wonderful girl she is (not depressed, interested and caring about others), when there is no man in her life. Then she "falls in love" and becomes passively dependent. She jumps into or at every crack pot idea that she thinks will improve the relationship. She won't listen to anyone and dumps her friends and interests. Even though we live in the same town, I rarely see her when she is in "love." After blowing all her money and loosing her personality and sense of self worth, she gets depressed and the fellow dumps her.
It leaves her a shambles, which is exactly where she is now. Her father is an alcoholic and I made sure she understood the genetics and the addictive personality (booze and drugs). She has never done either. Too bad I didn't include being addicted to men! She is a long term employee and an excellent worker. Her work is not affected by this or other mildered depressions.
QUESTION 2: Does she sound bipolar or major depression?
I was tossed into a two year depression when loss of our business, home, sons and my ovaries all occured within a year (she was about 10), but otherwise depression isn't a family trait.
QUESTION 3: Assuming she resolves her abandonment and relationship issues, is she likely to need long term medication?
I'm sorry to write such a long thing and for not reading more of the forum to learn the what things are generally presented.