I don't know what to do about my wife's mental health condition. Please help!

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   Posted 10/24/2015 9:25 AM (GMT -7)   
My wife and I have been married for two months. She has exhibited symptoms of Bipolar Disorder, and PTSD. Her mood swings became violent, so I suggested that she get help. She agreed at first, but then when her mood changed, she decided that all of the issues were my fault. It seems like since I mentioned seeing someone to get help, I became her enemy. She has since stopped talking to me, attempted to charge me with domestic abuse, and has become more erratic by the day. I love my wife dearly, and I want to see her get the help she needs, whether her and I stay married or not. I want to be a good husband, keep my vows, and be there for her, because that's what I said I would do. I just don't know what, if anything, I can do to help her when she's bent on putting all of the problems on me, and won't even speak to me. My kids and I have been through a lot, emotionally. She would run us down, like we aren't good enough, or tell us that we are the reason that she can't accomplish goals. What, if anything, can I do at this point to help her? I am so conflicted, and so worn out, jumping from one foot to another trying to please her. Please help...

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   Posted 10/25/2015 10:02 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi hdkline,

Welcome to the forum!

I am sorry for what is happening. Is there anyone else that cn talk to your wife? Maybe her parents or a close relative or friend, you can ask them to talk to her about seeking treatment?

It's nice that you offered to help her. However, she must be willing to get help. This is the first step, unless she becomes extremely violent and you need to call the police. If she is not willing to accept help, there's not much one can do. I would encourage you to talk whenever you think she's in a good mood can you can. Let her know that you care about her deeply and you just want to help her.

Please also remember to take care of yourself. These things can affect you too. Please know that we are here for you.

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   Posted 11/5/2015 6:42 PM (GMT -7)   
First, I would be extremely worried about potential false charges of domestic violence. There are two problems with domestic violence, serious complaints given too little attention and false manufactured ones. Police were called to the home of a fellow cop 15 times but did little until the 16th when the cop's wife was found dead. A noted Dodger's baseball player with a reputation as an angry man beat his wife multiple times, and the last time she died after a ruptured spleen from a brutal beating.

On the other sides, claims can be exaggerated . Dominant Diane runs her house and when mealy Marvin did not want to pay when she wanted in a divorce, an argument ensued in which told him of her multiple affairs and he slapped her. Smiling, she called the police, said she had been punched, checked into the local hospital, and he was jailed. Never having had a legal problem, he was terrified and worse, a tougher inmate punched Marvin and said he would be violated unless he became the other inmates slave for the incarceration, washing and taking care of the man and making arrangements to give him money.

Cops have trouble figuring out the difference, only knowing that people who give them trouble must be guilty. When Jeffrey Dahmer was in the middle of murdering another victim, police came, but because of his calm and cooperative demeanor, they left and Dahmer finished the murder.

If your wife is about to file false charges, you better document her problems, keep a large folder, and take extensive steps to protect yourself.

Since she shows no indication of commitment to the marriage, or willingness to change, this may be done.

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   Posted 11/6/2015 7:07 PM (GMT -7)   
sadly, at this point it is best to walk away for a period, as without treatment a nasty road awaits. esculation is not probable, it is just a matter of when. men women, it matters not, a violent manic outburst is a dangerous place to be in. yes manipulation is prevalent, thus documentation is required. especially with certain enforcement regulations. domestic violence is just that, it is violence, gender matters not. many healing thoughts.

ps staying will ensue in lies, manipulation and more outbursts and increased agitation and unwellness.


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