New to the site and sick of my family

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Date Joined Nov 2005
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   Posted 11/24/2005 1:33 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi there...I was diagnosed as bipolar almost 2 months ago. Told NO ONE but my husband. I knew the support I would get  from family so I kept it quiet. Last night was 2 years from a house fire in wich I lost EVERYTHING but my family, son and husband ....I did lose a cat....but enough of that ...MY pills were out in plain site and my mother asked why so many pills? She lives in my basement....So I told her ......She tried to comfort me ...I told my sister this morning who also lives in my basement..My sister came to me and said that the doctor is wrong...then my mom said I read about that bipolar thing for 2 hours last night don't have that
Why do they make it harder ....why?

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Date Joined May 2005
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   Posted 11/24/2005 3:41 PM (GMT -7)   
Hello Paiger,
Sorry to hear about the upset with the family. It is tough, and it will be rare to find a member of this site who hasn't been where you are. I consider my family to be well informed and I'm not sure if some of them really understand my situation. For me at least, I was able to sheild my family from a lot of the characteristic BP behaviour so they weren't witness to the all of the upset I was able to create in such short periods. I think they've carefully filed away some of the darkest moments hoping to be able to move on. Some of the more devastating struggles I have kept private so they aren't able to understand the true gravity of the situation.
I think that most people are afraid to admit that their loved one is afflicted with something as potentially dangerous and frightening as BP. Especially considering it is such a chronic and unpredicatble condition without a single specific solution. Its hard for people to understand the daily battle and to comprehend the need and function of medication.
More often than not, I think that our families are reacting with good intentions based in fear and worry for our health and safety. They just don't realize what they think is helpful, isn't necessarily what we need to hear in the midst of a small crisis.
For me, its been important to try to come to peace with it, and I've had some luck talking it through with my dr. It helps being able to find an impartial party that you can talk with and help to unload some of the upset and find some understanding.
Take care of yourself and good luck with the family,

Post Edited (Putter) : 2/17/2006 9:55:17 AM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 11/30/2005 11:42 PM (GMT -7)   

Sounds to me as if your family is not accepting that you have a chronic mental health issue such as Bipolar and if you actually do, they are in what's called Denial. They don't want to admit it, they are avoiding the issue, it can't happen in their normal family, they don't want to accept it for you their family as it could happen to them next. It's real hard for the family to cope with this type of thing. It's hard for one thing as it changes us so much and they have to get used to a new person living there, one on medications, one that perhaps gained weight or has mood swings or acts bizarre or goofy at times, or overly depressed. Just be thankful for your family and the time you have with them. You'll need them to support you through this ordeal. Perhaps offer them some reading on the subject or find a book for them even if it's a library book. There's tons of information online. I hope this helps you out. Remember always that you are NOT alone. There are many of us with this. Mental illness is just like any chronic illness, it might be cancer or heart disease or diabetes for others, but for us it's this serious illness called Bipolar. We have to simply cope with it and take it one day at a time. Good luck.
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