My daughter wrote a long letter about
her side of the story. She sent it CC and BCC to each and everyone in the family (except her husband and mother). This is her mindset. She is certainly hurting.
Update On Cat's marriage
I am using this email because I don't think angad is checking it, although I think he still could if he wanted to. Many people family and friends are copied and BCC (blind copied) on this email so I caution people not to reply with the reply all button.
This email consists of 1) a copy the text message I just sent out 2) plus an additional P.s. At the end about
a recording I will try to forward.
FYI/ status update:
I am very confused about
Angad's motives right now and this website might fit. I know you guys all think he is just so much in love with me yet his actions and words are contradicting that theory. He goes back and forth between "I love you more than anything" to " you are going to pay for that." I do not know what words to believe, his caring "I love you" or threatening " you're going to pay for that," After I tell him "don't touch me or I'll call 911" and I have the phone in my hand ready to dial.
The night after I got back from Oregon we were arguing and he threatened to take a knife to his gut and ran to the kitchen to get one. I could not handle this and called his father from my phone via the app 'what's app,' telling his father he needed to fly out right away to help his son. Angad did not like this and threw my phone and broke it. Then Angad called his father back on his cellphone and told him not to come out.
I have suggested to Angad that he go to India to be with his family during this hard time in our marriage, reminding Angad of what he has told me our whole relationship; that his grandmother is sick so he might want to see her sooner rather than later. He now says she is better so there is no need.
I know you have never seen Angad angry so it's hard for you to believe he can slam on doors and stomp down stairs and stand in a threatening way, yet I have seen it so I am confused right now on what is love. This man claims he loves me yet Since I have been back here at our home He has cursed at me worse than I have ever been yelled at (and that is worse than I have ever seen my mother yell including the floor tile incident.)
Last week he stood by me as I am cutting vegetables, during an argument, pushing the hand I have the knife in and yelling at me "are you threatening me, what are you going to do, etc." to which I had to walk away and try to call his parents, and as I am walking away in my head I am fearful he would pick up the knife and come at me. At that time, last week, I did not call the police because he didn't pick up the knife and come at me so I settled for him talking to his dad, which calmed him down.
Again I reiterate that right now I am confused about
him and his motives, and his rapid transitions from anger to love; I'm looking at this website 'about
signs you are being married to for a green card' and thinking that maybe this is why he is going to these extremes of saying to me "I love you" one day and "you're going to pay for that" the next day. My fairytale of love tells me this is not love yet I do not know. Yet if you guys tell me this is love please do not abandon me when I decide I do not want this type of love anymore.
Thank you for reading. I am overwhelmed as I am now having to accept Angad and I having to be under the same roof after his actions; and I am trying to pack up belongings, stay safe and stay strong. I do not want to really believe I have fallen victim to a man playing with my heart for a green card.
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P.s. I'm going to send a 2nd email with a voice recording of when my mom and Angad brought a CHR worker and police officers to our home. My gay friend kevin stayed with me during this past holiday weekend Saturday, Sunday and Monday night. Kevin tells me that if I had walked out my door I would have seen two police cars blocking the road, not just the one officer who was in my view. The recording took place on that (this past) Monday, 10-10-16 around 4:30 pm.
I didn't tell anyone my phone was recording in my pocket. Previous to Monday the only other police action was when my mother and Angad called the police to our home mid week, which is when Angad finally left to stay in a motel; and previously that day (Monday) when kevin and I went to the police station in town to talk with a female officer, to express my fears of angad coming back into the home.