Is This Bipolar or Just Normal?

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Healthy Junk
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   Posted 4/12/2017 6:45 AM (GMT -7)   
I was in a relationship with a woman who was bipolar. We were together for a year, but she had to move back home to be with her family because of all the debt she piled up during her manic phases. This was before I met her. She told me that she would move back once the debt was paid off, which she figured would take a year. We never promised not to see other people, but we still chatted regularly. She would often tell me how anxious she was to move back and how boring her home town was. That went on for a year and a half. Then one day, she posts on her Facebook page that she's in a relationship and I stop hearing from her. After some time, we start chatting again and she tells me that she's changed her mind about moving back. Obviously, the new boyfriend was the reason. But she claims it's because she's doing well there and has her illness under control. Now, I have no doubt that living at home and having family to support you makes dealing with bipolar easier. But given that she spent nearly 18 months telling me how unhappy she is there, this was a pretty surprising change of heart. Is it possible that she was depressed all those times she told me she was unhappy there? If so, I wish I would've realized it sooner.

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   Posted 4/19/2017 4:46 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Healthy Junk,

Welcome to the Bipolar forum!

I am sorry things did not work out with your friend.

You were a good friend for waiting and being there for her during the time she was not feeling happy and well. Sounds like she made new friends and decided to move on. It can be hard and hurt when we are waiting on someone and they do not do the same especially since you both thought she would move back with you.

It sounds like she has moved on since she have not contacted you. You should move on as well. I know it will be hard, but it may be the best thing for you. You can just move on but don't rush into any new relationship until you are sure that you are ready for it.

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