Thank you so much for your reply! I've just recently gotten health insurance, so I'll be heading to get help soon. Once we're married, I'll add him on and keep trying to convince him to come with me.
I've lived with my depression successfully thus far, with only small bouts of mania that have come usually during times of high stress, based on what you've written.
As far as children; he has a medical issue that makes that highly unlikely, as well as my age (45). What I rely on is staying calm and focused and reassuring him during episodes that we're going to be ok, that I'm not going to run away and leave him like his family has, and that I truly do love him and choose to be with him.
I tend to be a positive person, but sometimes that's tougher than I'd like.
We've made it a year through some pretty rough situations, and every time, no matter how hard he pushes me away, I'm still here. Because that's where I want to be. I think I'm doing well so far, but I know that once we're married and we're not just living together as a couple, things will change. That's inevitable. I've spent hours researching bipolar and how I can help him cope with an episode, and I've been able to diffuse several of them. Others, when they're really intense, no so much.
Again, thank you for your response. I already feel welcome here.