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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/21/2005 6:46 AM (GMT -7)   
My husband is bipolar and an alcoholic.  We've been fighting for so long now.  He is so incredibly angry!  I've been kicked and pushed.  I can't say I didn't hit back. 
He said he hates me and wishes me dead.
He won't get help and told me he doesn't care if I leave.  If I go home with my parents I'm afraid he will hurt himself.
I don't know even where to start with this.

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Date Joined Dec 2005
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   Posted 12/21/2005 7:28 AM (GMT -7)   

hi brianswife

your story sounds similar 2 mine not so much physical abuse but more emotional and verbal. my boy friend isnt recieving any kind of help 4 it niether. it has made our lives a nightmare. he has cheated lied went out all nite 1 time he went out on a 4 day binge. there is so much more 2 it then that it was like everyday it was 1 thing or another. he would kick me out every month around the same time just 2 beg me 2 return a couple days later. rite now we been apart 4 over a month he has asked me 2 return but i cant take it anymore im seven months pregnant and it 2 hard on me. i guess there isnt much either 1 of us can do if they dont want 2 get help. ireally dont have any advice because im in the same situation myself and dont know what 2 either but goodluck and hope everything works out 4 u  

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Date Joined Apr 2005
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   Posted 12/21/2005 7:44 AM (GMT -7)   
Hi Brianswife and welcome to healingwell. Welcome to you as well ejrjwk.
First of all if you feel you are in physical danger, and Brianswife I feel that you are, get out NOW! Your husband is unstable and out of control. DO NOT stay because he tells you he may hurt himself if you leave. That is classic alcoholic behavior. I was battered both physically and emotionally for 13 years before I found the nerve to run away. It wasn't until I finally saw the emotional impact our relationship was having on our children that I made a run for it. If you feel that he may truly hurt himself, then call his pdoc, minister, perhaps one of his family members, or even an ambulance to intervene but don't stay for that reason. If your husband is bp1 and having a psychotic episode he could truly harm you and feel much remorse later but that would not undo whats been done.
And ejrjwk, I'm glad you're sticking to your resolve and not running back this time. Your first priority must be yourself and your unborn child. Perhaps this will be the wakeup call he needs to finally get some help.
Take care and God Bless to you both
You'll be in my prayers
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