All great questions.
You say: "Yes, we are concerned for both my mother in law and father in law."
But then you also have your husband who is depressed.
How you're holding up is a miracle.
And you add:
"She is now home alone in a manic state - and says she doesn't need any medications because she's fine."
"She's just a little over excited because she just got out of a depression and she feels good, she's happy. She says she is not bipolar and those doctors don't know her so how can they say that."
ion of a bipolar who has been in the depressed cycle, and has now gone up to the manic side, is very accurate. That's exactly what happens, which I as a bipolar myself have experienced.
We think people who accuse us of being equally sick when we think we have finally worked our way out of depression are jealous of us, are jealous of our happiness.
You point out: "I'm not sure how we can get her to accept her diagnosis and take her medications - everything I'm reading says it's up to her."
And "How can we ever get to a better place if that's the case?"
Maybe hospitalization, if she will agree to that. Do you have a hospital plan?
You note: "Is it better to try talking to her when she's not manic? Wait for the depression to come back?"
Very good question. When she's manic, she doesn't want to go back into depression. She needs to understand the Lithium (which I take for the mania, she may get another stgablizer) will not make her depressed, it will slow down the mania to where she can function. She will like it better than mania.
And, the anti-depressant she has (I take Mirtazapine for that side of my bipolar), will keep her from being depressed, which she is a lot of the time, and which the anti-depressant will keep her out of.
She needs to understand that the medicine will help her.
When depressed, though, it's hard for her to make decisions, like, should I take my medicine? So both sides are tough.
She may have to have an episode (I had a nervous breakdown). If she survives it, she may have to be hospitalized. Or agree to go to a psychiatrist, and just take the meds at home.
Or, just take the meds she already has. She should be glad she has you. If you can just talk to her over the phone, and maybe read to her what you have read on this website, and keep talking to her on a regular basis, maybe you can get through to her.
If she wants to contact this forum and talk to some fellow bipolars, that would be great.
Does she have a psychiatrist? When is the next appointment?
Post Edited (Tim Tam) : 9/20/2017 8:24:15 PM (GMT-6)