Posted 12/30/2017 1:59 PM (GMT -7)
My Christmas, thank you for asking.
Umm, I had been doing some family history items for people and finished and mailed them by Christmas. I told some people, I have family history, what I don't have is a family.
But that can be a good thing, if you have a bad family. If you ever reach a point where you don't have to take any more gruff from your growing up family, that I felt like I had to take living in the same house; and then you reach a point where you can say, "I don't have to take this anymore."
As I say, it can be a good thing. It can be a growing up thing. "I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul."
The rough situation is, if you're like tied to someone who is bad for you, like a toxic personality, like financially tied, emotionally, or in some other way, and you feel you can't get away.
So my having a family history but no family is not really a bad situation. They came after me every time we got together. I finally figured out the pattern.
I mean, I blame myself for not figuring it out sooner. I pat myself on the back for figuring it out at all.
How about yourself? Do you still have ties with your growing up family?
You say, "Today he is very delusional and manic. We stayed by ourselves at Xmas. He started a,family drama and we could not attend🤣"
That kinda reminds me of the social situation my not deceased wife and I had. Neither of us were good socially, and it was kinda rough. Plus our marriage was bad. Now that the marriage is gone, I just do some projects every now and then, but I don't need or want a lot of social activity.
I get that when I walk around the street with my dog and we meet a neighbor, and perhaps have a nice talk. I know at different ages we may want that, but at my age, I don't need it.
I have a person who helps me who has children and I enjoy talking to them, and doing projects for them, and people do enrich your life, and I like that when it's happening, but you don't always get the friendships that you may want.
So, I'm sorry to hear that "Today he is very delusional and manic." How is he showing that?
You said, "We stayed by ourselves at Xmas. He started a,family drama and we could not attend🤣"
Was it upsetting that you stayed by yourselves? Would you rather have gone to the family gathering?
In your previous post you said, "Be kind to others and to yourself. We only live once. Treat others well. Be kind."
That very much reminds me of one of my favorite sayings, which is, "I shall pass through this world but once. If, therefore, there be any kindness I can show, or any good thing I can do, let me do it now. Let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again."
How do you show kindness to others? How do you show it to yourself?